Is Love Always Complicated?

"I was more confident about sex and romance when I was sixteen than I am now" -Elizabeth Gilbert

"Of course you were. You were young and stupid then. Only the young and stupid are confident about sex and romance. Do you think any of us know what we're doing? Do you think there's any way humans can love each other without complication? You should see how it happens in Bali, darling. All these Western men come here after they've made a mess of their lives back home, and they decide they've had it with Western women, and they go marry some tiny, sweet, obedient little Balinese teenage girl. I know what they’re thinking. They think this pretty little girl will make them happy, make their lives easy. But whenever I see it happen, I always want to say the same thing. Good luck. Because you still have a women in front of you, my friend. And you're still a man. It's still two human beings trying to get along, so it’s going to be complicated. And love is always complicated. But still humans must try to love each other, darling. We must get our hearts broken sometimes. This is a good sign, having a broken heart. It means we have tried for something." Felipe the Brazilian

{Pages 276-277 - "Eat, Pray, Love" by Elizabeth Gilbert}

This excerpt from Elizabeth Gilbert’s book “Eat, Pray, Love” poses a great question: Is love always complicated? Jazmin Sullivan’s song Lions and Tigers also discusses loves complications by saying things such as, “Just ‘cause I love u and u love me, it doesn't mean that that we're meant to be” and “Why do we love Love, when Love seems to hate us?.” It is true that when you merge two human beings, two human lives, different backgrounds, ways of thinking, morals, values, etc. things are difficult, but is it impossible? With the divorce rate as high as it is and the infidelity rate sky rocketing in this day and age, will relationships become obsolete in the near future? Is it just too complicated to even try?

Felipe (above) said that we must still try to love one another because having a broken heart means that you have tried for something. I agree with Felipe in that even though love can hurt at times, we must work towards making relationships work. As hard as it may be, it’s nice to have someone by your side, someone to grow old with, share special moments with, EXPERIENCE LIFE WITH.

I say, let the complications live on. I say LET LOVE LIVE on.


Jazmine Sullivan’s "Lions & Tigers":



http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=R7kBIGx6a9g

[Chorus]
I'm not scared of lions and tigers and bears [oh my]
But I'm scared of [loving you]
I'm not scared to perform at a sold out affair [that's right]
But I'm scared of [loving you]
Am I the only one who thinks an impossible task?
Why it don't last? Is that too much to ask?
Why do we love Love, when Love seems to hate us?

[Verse]
Sorry if I sound so filled with gloom
You say you care and I know you do
But this is from my experience
And my conclusion only makes sense
Just cause I love u and u love me,
It doesn't mean that that we're meant to be,
I can climb mountains, swim cross the seas,
But the most frightening thing is you & me!

[Chorus]

[Verse]
Most circumstances I know my fate
But in this love thing I don't get the game
Why does it feel like those who give in,
They only wind up losing a friend?
Just cause I love u and u love me,
It doesn't mean that that we'll ever be,
Fly cross the ocean, sing for the Queen,
But the most frightening thing is you & me!

[Chorus]

[Bridge]
I'm not sure no, I'm not sure
But if we never try we'll never know
It's better to have loved than not to love at all
But trying is worst than to stumble and fall
And if what we do?
I'd rather it be with you
Cause at least there will be
Sweet memories

[Chorus]