Sometimes I lie awake at night wondering what life would be like being by your side many moons from now.
Waking up in the middle of the night and turning towards you instead of a lonely pillow.
Feeling your warm breath on my forehead as you slowly breathe in and out of your nostrils with your arms wrapped around me and my ear pressed against your chest.
I will forever cherish the sound of your heartbeat in one ear and in the other, the sound of the wind rustling leaves outside, like the waves kissing the ocean shore.
I want to wake up and see the beautiful moon staring at us from afar, the very same moon that we used to look at when we walked on the cool sand many summer nights years ago. The very same moon that will be there years from now when we travel the world together, exploring, making new discoveries.
I wonder what life would be like to see your face change over time....to feel your skin age with the turbulent rollercoaster of life. All the while, my skin will age next to yours as our love continues to grow for one another.
I look forward to reminiscing on how things once were and looking towards how things will be, with you by my side.
Time, it's a magical thing. All of these fleeting moments are gone ever too quickly.
We must treasure every moment we have with one another for we never know when the other shall cease to exist.
I look forward to growing old with and experiencing life with you...whomever it is you are destined to be.
~a delirious, emotional moment in time....
Just woke up to a beautiful moon and was inspired. Going back to bed now...
written at 1:22am 6/30/10
Wednesday, June 30, 2010
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Tuesday, June 8, 2010
Sex and the City 2
"You always want what you had when you have what you always wanted" ~Elyse Lerner
This wonderful quote came about after watching “Sex and the City 2”, which I believe is a FANTASTIC movie. I don’t want to give away the details in case you have not watched the movie, but I will touch on this underlying theme that was apparent throughout the film. Charlotte always wanted a family, yet when she finally has a husband and two children, she’s going crazy. Miranda always wanted to be a partner at her law firm, but she was not fulfilled due to the enormous amount of work and scrutiny she has to endure. Carrie wanted the man she loved, Mr. Big, to love her, appreciate her and be in a long-term, committed relationship with her. Now that they are finally married, life is not what she expected it would be. Many people live their lives wanting something so badly, yet when they receive the thing they desire/have been working towards, they don't want it anymore; they would rather be back at square one. It's the same logic behind the saying: "The grass isn't always greener on the other side."
We believe things will be better when this happens (get promoted, buy a house, meet the person of our dreams, have a child, etc.), or when we have that material thing (car, house, wedding ring, divorce papers, etc.), however, some people reach their destination, but still feel empty, alone, overworked and underpaid.
So, why is it that we want what we had when we finally have what we wanted? Will we ever be satisfied?
This wonderful quote came about after watching “Sex and the City 2”, which I believe is a FANTASTIC movie. I don’t want to give away the details in case you have not watched the movie, but I will touch on this underlying theme that was apparent throughout the film. Charlotte always wanted a family, yet when she finally has a husband and two children, she’s going crazy. Miranda always wanted to be a partner at her law firm, but she was not fulfilled due to the enormous amount of work and scrutiny she has to endure. Carrie wanted the man she loved, Mr. Big, to love her, appreciate her and be in a long-term, committed relationship with her. Now that they are finally married, life is not what she expected it would be. Many people live their lives wanting something so badly, yet when they receive the thing they desire/have been working towards, they don't want it anymore; they would rather be back at square one. It's the same logic behind the saying: "The grass isn't always greener on the other side."
We believe things will be better when this happens (get promoted, buy a house, meet the person of our dreams, have a child, etc.), or when we have that material thing (car, house, wedding ring, divorce papers, etc.), however, some people reach their destination, but still feel empty, alone, overworked and underpaid.
So, why is it that we want what we had when we finally have what we wanted? Will we ever be satisfied?
Thursday, June 3, 2010
Help! He Doesn't Want to Commit!!
Q: I’ve been in a relationship with my boyfriend for six years (on and off). We've had many issues in the past that have caused us to break up several times. My issue now is that my boyfriend shuns marriage. He says he's scared to get married because everyone around him is divorced. I feel like he will never truly commit. Am I wasting my time? I’m 31 and really want to get married and have children. Please help!
-Ashley L.
FreeHeartsAndMinds' Advice: Although I am NOT a relationship expert, my advice is Ashley, RUN (don't walk) away and don't look back. You two are not on the same page and the problems will just keep escalating if and when you both decide to get married. The fact that you have had an "on and off" relationship should be indication enough that an important link in your relationship is broken. Been there, done that...Now, it's time to move on! When he is grown and ready to commit, he may realize that he lost a good thing. By then, you will be happily married and raising the family you long for. Best of luck!
Advice from a trained professional:
A: Hi Ashley,
You ask a great question regarding commitment. Six years is a lot of time, energy and emotion to put into a relationship. However, starting a family with the wrong man would be a big mistake indeed. Of course, it’s impossible for me to know if this is the wrong man and if you’re “wasting your time.” But the fact that you’re reaching out tells me that your inner voice is whispering caution into you ear. All I can tell you is this: Judge people more by what they do than by what they say. However, in this case, it appears that what your boyfriend is “doing” and what he is “saying” are in agreement with each other.
If you could attach a voice to his overall demeanor when it comes to marriage and commitment issues, what would that voice be saying to you? Be as honest as you can. Create a one-sentence statement that describes exactly what you hear. Even though I have very limited information here, when I ask myself that question about his behavior, I hear, “I don’t want to commit and I don’t want to get married!” So my question to you is this: Are you unable to hear him OR are you just unwilling to hear him?
Wishing You Great Health,
Dr. John H. Sklare
Source: Lifescript.com
-Ashley L.
FreeHeartsAndMinds' Advice: Although I am NOT a relationship expert, my advice is Ashley, RUN (don't walk) away and don't look back. You two are not on the same page and the problems will just keep escalating if and when you both decide to get married. The fact that you have had an "on and off" relationship should be indication enough that an important link in your relationship is broken. Been there, done that...Now, it's time to move on! When he is grown and ready to commit, he may realize that he lost a good thing. By then, you will be happily married and raising the family you long for. Best of luck!
Advice from a trained professional:
A: Hi Ashley,
You ask a great question regarding commitment. Six years is a lot of time, energy and emotion to put into a relationship. However, starting a family with the wrong man would be a big mistake indeed. Of course, it’s impossible for me to know if this is the wrong man and if you’re “wasting your time.” But the fact that you’re reaching out tells me that your inner voice is whispering caution into you ear. All I can tell you is this: Judge people more by what they do than by what they say. However, in this case, it appears that what your boyfriend is “doing” and what he is “saying” are in agreement with each other.
If you could attach a voice to his overall demeanor when it comes to marriage and commitment issues, what would that voice be saying to you? Be as honest as you can. Create a one-sentence statement that describes exactly what you hear. Even though I have very limited information here, when I ask myself that question about his behavior, I hear, “I don’t want to commit and I don’t want to get married!” So my question to you is this: Are you unable to hear him OR are you just unwilling to hear him?
Wishing You Great Health,
Dr. John H. Sklare
Source: Lifescript.com
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