Is there any truth to these great videos or what?!? lmao!!!
Chris Rock - View on Love and Relationships
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=R6OaRcsfnY4&NR=1
Chris Rock - Relationship Advice
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Zr1xppNU9w4&NR=1
Friday, August 29, 2008
Seek and you WILL Find
So, lately you’ve had a funny feeling about your relationship. Something has been off between you and your significant other. One day you decide to do some investigative research. We all know the old saying “Seek and you will find” {Matthew 7:7-8}? Well, this usually comes true when you are snooping around in your lover’s belongings. Their cell phone just happens to be sitting there, calling you…their computer just happens to be on and their e-mails are staring at you…their journal is hidden in a secret spot, but that too is lonely and needs your company. Whatever the case may be, you cannot help yourself, you need to know. You read, you search, you find. It just so happens that your lover has been communicating with someone in particular a little more often than you would like (texts, calls, e-mails, etc), or you find pictures of people you’ve never seen before wearing things you thought only you wore in front of him/her. What do you do?
Do you, delete the bookmarked history, put the journal/cell phone back, close your eyes and make believe it was a nightmare? Do you let it boil inside of you until you decide to get him or her back for betraying you? Do you confront your significant other and ask a million questions knowing you won’t even truly believe the answers? If you confront your partner and they deny any wrong-doing, do you contact the other woman or man…for verification purposes, of course? What if you do and you find that the person you trusted so much has lied? Would verifying end up hurting you more than just simply letting it go? More importantly, can you ever gain that trust back?
Do you, delete the bookmarked history, put the journal/cell phone back, close your eyes and make believe it was a nightmare? Do you let it boil inside of you until you decide to get him or her back for betraying you? Do you confront your significant other and ask a million questions knowing you won’t even truly believe the answers? If you confront your partner and they deny any wrong-doing, do you contact the other woman or man…for verification purposes, of course? What if you do and you find that the person you trusted so much has lied? Would verifying end up hurting you more than just simply letting it go? More importantly, can you ever gain that trust back?
Tuesday, August 26, 2008
It's NOT That Complicated…If he won’t commit...QUIT!
Any thoughts regarding the following article?
Well, last week we threw a bachelor party for one of our good friends and then on Saturday afternoon we stood beside him in our tuxes while he and his fiancé said their vows. As I stood up there looking across the crowd, I decided that our next topic on this page would definitely talk about marriage. I also realized that a lot of women might not want to hear the truth about men and marriage because the truth is so simple that they could not accept it without questioning their own relationship. But I am here to tell you - DON'T FOOL YOURSELF, IT'S NOT THAT COMPLICATED. The sad thing about it is that it took a woman to bring it to my attention. I had a close friend of mine tell me that she was pursuing a stable man with a girlfriend. When I asked her did she feel wrong about that she said? 'S---, a girlfriend ain't nothin' - girlfriends come and go. If the n----is established and he isn't either married or engaged, then he is not that serious about her and he is fair game.' I thought about this for a minute and came to a cold conclusion: IF A MAN IS STABLE IN LIFE AND HE IS IN A RELATIONSHIP AND NOT MARRIED, THEN IT IS BECAUSE HE IS NOT SURE ABOUT THE WOMAN THAT HE IS WITH. He is not willing to commit to her and constantly has his eye open for something better or is waiting for her to become something better. Point blank. When he finds a woman that he is satisfied with, he will make her his wife. And ladies, sorry to tell some of you, but it doesn't take 4 or 5 years for that man to figure it out. It doesn't take 2 or 3 years either. The only reason that a man will get married after that long of a time is because he's tired of looking for something better. And trust me, that's definitely what he was doing all of those years. So if you should happen to find yourself in one of those 'long term' relationships then maybe you should step back, take a look at yourself and wonder what it is that you're missing that this man is not willing to fully commit. Don't make excuses to yourself and your girlfriends saying things like 'Oh he's waiting 'til he gets a better job' or 'he's waiting to finish school' or 'he's waiting until he moves from his apartment to a house'. DON'T FOOL YOURSELF, IT'S NOT THAT COMPLICATED. Which one of those things can't be done with a wife or fiancé by your side? So ladies, when you read this think about your situation and that man that you are living with, or the one that you spend many nights over his house or him over yours. Think about your baby's father that you are still in a sexual relationship with. Think about your 'ex' that you are in a sexual relationship with. Think about your 'boyfriend.' And definitely think twice before you brag on a relationship that's a couple of years long and still have no commitment. Like I've said before, I'm a man and I know the situation. I've been there and I know that we can come up with some extremely reasonable excuses, but DON'T FOOL YOURSELF, IT'S NOT THAT COMPLICATED.
-Author Unknown
Well, last week we threw a bachelor party for one of our good friends and then on Saturday afternoon we stood beside him in our tuxes while he and his fiancé said their vows. As I stood up there looking across the crowd, I decided that our next topic on this page would definitely talk about marriage. I also realized that a lot of women might not want to hear the truth about men and marriage because the truth is so simple that they could not accept it without questioning their own relationship. But I am here to tell you - DON'T FOOL YOURSELF, IT'S NOT THAT COMPLICATED. The sad thing about it is that it took a woman to bring it to my attention. I had a close friend of mine tell me that she was pursuing a stable man with a girlfriend. When I asked her did she feel wrong about that she said? 'S---, a girlfriend ain't nothin' - girlfriends come and go. If the n----is established and he isn't either married or engaged, then he is not that serious about her and he is fair game.' I thought about this for a minute and came to a cold conclusion: IF A MAN IS STABLE IN LIFE AND HE IS IN A RELATIONSHIP AND NOT MARRIED, THEN IT IS BECAUSE HE IS NOT SURE ABOUT THE WOMAN THAT HE IS WITH. He is not willing to commit to her and constantly has his eye open for something better or is waiting for her to become something better. Point blank. When he finds a woman that he is satisfied with, he will make her his wife. And ladies, sorry to tell some of you, but it doesn't take 4 or 5 years for that man to figure it out. It doesn't take 2 or 3 years either. The only reason that a man will get married after that long of a time is because he's tired of looking for something better. And trust me, that's definitely what he was doing all of those years. So if you should happen to find yourself in one of those 'long term' relationships then maybe you should step back, take a look at yourself and wonder what it is that you're missing that this man is not willing to fully commit. Don't make excuses to yourself and your girlfriends saying things like 'Oh he's waiting 'til he gets a better job' or 'he's waiting to finish school' or 'he's waiting until he moves from his apartment to a house'. DON'T FOOL YOURSELF, IT'S NOT THAT COMPLICATED. Which one of those things can't be done with a wife or fiancé by your side? So ladies, when you read this think about your situation and that man that you are living with, or the one that you spend many nights over his house or him over yours. Think about your baby's father that you are still in a sexual relationship with. Think about your 'ex' that you are in a sexual relationship with. Think about your 'boyfriend.' And definitely think twice before you brag on a relationship that's a couple of years long and still have no commitment. Like I've said before, I'm a man and I know the situation. I've been there and I know that we can come up with some extremely reasonable excuses, but DON'T FOOL YOURSELF, IT'S NOT THAT COMPLICATED.
-Author Unknown
Just broke up...
"The best part of being out of a relationship...plenty of time to catch up with your friends." {Carrie, Sex and the City, Season 2, Episode 25 "Games People Play"}
How do you feel after a break-up? How long after do you start dating? Do you go out with friends to de-stress? Do you write? Do you stalk the person on MySpace/Facebook/Hi5, etc.? When is it okay to sleep with someone else if your ex broke up with you? What about if you broke up with them?
Excellent songs....
"Best of Me" by Chrisette Michelle
"Be Ok" by Chrisette Michelle
"The Break-up Song" by Colorblind
Monday, August 25, 2008
Decisions...
"It's about the fact that I wasn't even a factor in his decision making process. Why is it so hard for you to factor me into your life in any real way?" {Carrie, Sex and the City, Season 2, Episode 24 "La Douleur Exquise!"}
Have you ever felt like you were left out of the equation when your significant other was making a big decision in his/her life? Moving to another state/country, going back to school, making a career change, the need to see other people, going on a quick lunch date with an Ex, and the list goes on... Why/how could they not consider your feelings and how their decision would affect you or the relationship? Did they say they did consider you, but didn't think it would have a negative impact on your life/relationship? How did the change in their life affect yours?
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