What does a poke mean to you?
Does it mean:
"Hey, haven't seen/spoken to you in a while, just wanted to say hi!" or
"Remember me?! I'm alive!" or
"Come look at my pics and write on my wall please!!" or
";) You're kinda cute." or
"Hey mamacita, here's a virtual poke, but wait til I see you in person ;o)" or
"You didn't respond to my texts, voice messages and/or inboxes, so this is yet another reminder to write back!!"
or ... ?
Does it depend who you poke? Do you usually poke people of the opposite sex? Only people you are attracted to? Only friends or family members? Do guys usually poke other guys?
Is it just me or does this poking business have a sexual undertone?
How do you respond to a poke by someone you barely know? Do you poke back? Do you write them a private message? or a public message on their wall? Do you call them out by writing..."Hey, thanks for the POKE! Hope all is well!" What if you are in a relationship, should you poke single people of the opposite sex? Is that crossing the line? Should you tell your significant other that you are poking people online?
What is this poking thing really all about?
Monday, September 27, 2010
Saturday, September 25, 2010
Let's Move in Together!
Baby, we've been together for almost four years, and I love you, I think it's time we move in together. We can live together for a while (one or two years) and see if we can stand one another and then decide if we want to get married or not. If we hate each other in a year or two, one of us could just move out and it would only be four to six years invested and lost, versus the rest of our lives....
Know anyone that has had a similar conversation with his or her partner? Or at least thought it, but never actually verbalized it? I am torn. I can see how living together for a while and then cutting your losses before actually tying the knot, would make things a lot easier and much less expensive. However, I also believe that deciding to live together without being engaged/married is a bit non-committal. If you are truly in love and neither one of you can see yourself raising a family and/or living the rest of your life with someone else, why not go for the goal? Why not just get married?
I believe/would hope that if you are married and you have vowed to your partner and to yourself that you will be with this person through thick and thin, 'til death do you part, it is more likely that you will want to work through any issues that may arise. Especially once you have invested in a home and/or children are involved, I would think couples are more inclined to go to couples counseling and work on bettering their union versus just letting it all go. If you are just testing the waters, you may give up a lot faster because, well, what do you truly have to lose? Also, some couples may live together so long without being married and decide there is no point in getting married, because their situation is as if they were already married.
I know a lot of studies have been done regarding co-habitation before marriage and I know the church is quite opposed to this phenomenon, but I am not thinking about it in terms of your vow to the church/before God so it's not about religion in my mind. The way I see it, it's simply about your commitment to your partner and your want/need to experience life with the person that completes you. I think that if a couple is set on getting married and they are engaged and decide to move in together with a similar vision about their future together, the success rate would be higher than just deciding to live together to see if they could deal with one another’s idiosyncrasies.
Since I have not experienced co-habitation before or after marriage, I can really only offer my semi-confused opinion about it all. Everyone must really discuss the pros and cons of all scenarios with their partner and come up with the best solution for their particular situation. I know it will definitely be something to discuss with my partner when the time comes, as it is a very important decision to make. The truth is that I will probably end up living with my significant other before marriage, but only when I know it’s the person I would like to spend the rest of my life with. When I am committed to someone, I will do my all to make sure the relationship is a healthy, fulfilling, long-lasting one. Hopefully I will find someone that has similar relationship values.
I wish you all the best of luck!
I would love to hear from readers that:
* lived with a significant other before marriage, got married and have been happily married for over 5 years;
* waited to live together until after marriage and have been happily married for over 5 years;
* lived with a significant other before marriage and decided not to get married;
* lived with a significant other before marriage, got married and got divorced;
* waited to live together until after marriage and then got divorced.
Various Readings:
Article 1
Article 2
Article 3
Article 4
Article 5
Article 6
Article 7
Article 8
Know anyone that has had a similar conversation with his or her partner? Or at least thought it, but never actually verbalized it? I am torn. I can see how living together for a while and then cutting your losses before actually tying the knot, would make things a lot easier and much less expensive. However, I also believe that deciding to live together without being engaged/married is a bit non-committal. If you are truly in love and neither one of you can see yourself raising a family and/or living the rest of your life with someone else, why not go for the goal? Why not just get married?
I believe/would hope that if you are married and you have vowed to your partner and to yourself that you will be with this person through thick and thin, 'til death do you part, it is more likely that you will want to work through any issues that may arise. Especially once you have invested in a home and/or children are involved, I would think couples are more inclined to go to couples counseling and work on bettering their union versus just letting it all go. If you are just testing the waters, you may give up a lot faster because, well, what do you truly have to lose? Also, some couples may live together so long without being married and decide there is no point in getting married, because their situation is as if they were already married.
I know a lot of studies have been done regarding co-habitation before marriage and I know the church is quite opposed to this phenomenon, but I am not thinking about it in terms of your vow to the church/before God so it's not about religion in my mind. The way I see it, it's simply about your commitment to your partner and your want/need to experience life with the person that completes you. I think that if a couple is set on getting married and they are engaged and decide to move in together with a similar vision about their future together, the success rate would be higher than just deciding to live together to see if they could deal with one another’s idiosyncrasies.
Since I have not experienced co-habitation before or after marriage, I can really only offer my semi-confused opinion about it all. Everyone must really discuss the pros and cons of all scenarios with their partner and come up with the best solution for their particular situation. I know it will definitely be something to discuss with my partner when the time comes, as it is a very important decision to make. The truth is that I will probably end up living with my significant other before marriage, but only when I know it’s the person I would like to spend the rest of my life with. When I am committed to someone, I will do my all to make sure the relationship is a healthy, fulfilling, long-lasting one. Hopefully I will find someone that has similar relationship values.
I wish you all the best of luck!
I would love to hear from readers that:
* lived with a significant other before marriage, got married and have been happily married for over 5 years;
* waited to live together until after marriage and have been happily married for over 5 years;
* lived with a significant other before marriage and decided not to get married;
* lived with a significant other before marriage, got married and got divorced;
* waited to live together until after marriage and then got divorced.
Various Readings:
Article 1
Article 2
Article 3
Article 4
Article 5
Article 6
Article 7
Article 8
Friday, September 24, 2010
On-Again, Off-Again Relationships
"Most of us have experienced a “bad but it feels so good” relationship at least once in our lives. The chemistry we experience with this person may cloud the reality that perhaps we’re not really such a great match. On-again, off-again relationships increase stress and take an emotional toll on a couple. So why do we allow ourselves to continue in the drama of a yo-yo relationship?
Some people love the “highs” of a tumultuous relationship so much that they readily accept the lows—the fights, the break ups, the tears. But in healthy relationships, you are not always going to feel a “high.” Eventually, your emotions and hormones will level off—at this point you can determine if you and your partner have what it takes to make your relationship last.
Another reason some people seem to get caught up in an on-again/off-again relationship is simply out of habit. They are used to being in a relationship, and when they’re not in one, a few days of loneliness can spur an unhappy person into giving an ex a second (or third, or fourth) chance. However, being single can be a tremendous opportunity for growth, development and self-awareness. And truly—are we ever really alone? Sometimes, surrounding ourselves with friends, family and co-workers is a healthier alternative than being in a relationship that will likely go awry again.
Low self-esteem can also make us vulnerable to on-again, off-again relationships. But healthy self-esteem comes from within—not from a boyfriend or girlfriend. If you are struggling to boost your self-esteem on your own, a professional life coach or counselor is likely to be a better source for helping build your confidence.
If you find yourself in a relationship that seems to be stuck in the on-off cycle, ask yourself why. Why do you consistently go back to this person, knowing the relationship isn’t going to work? What is the core issue between you? Do you have different values and beliefs? Is he/she abusive in some way? Is there an addiction problem? Or perhaps the issue is something fundamental, like you live in different cities and neither of you is willing to compromise. Regardless of the reason your relationship keeps spinning off its wobbly axis, chances are, it’s not going to change.
Granted, there are exceptions. Sometimes being apart can lead to a deeper appreciation of the other person. A reunion can be sweet; it’s tempting to assume your partner has permanently changed for the better. But unless both people are willing to commit to working on the big issues, underlying conflicts will simmer and eventually rear their ugly heads.
So, how can you decide whether it’s time to cut and run for good—or sign on for the long haul? A recent article in Psychology Today recommends the following:
(1) Adopt a worst-case-scenario mindset. Many perpetual relationship “yo-yoers” keep coming back because they assume they can change their partner’s worst habits. But that’s usually wishful thinking, psychotherapist Toni Coleman says. “You have to assume that the behaviors you see will get more entrenched and worse over time. Ask yourself, ‘If that turns out to be the case, will I still want to be in this relationship?’”
(2) Seek advice from a trusted third party. Therapists can fill this role, but family and friends can be just as helpful.
(3) Take a time-out. While hiatuses are par for the course in on-again, off-again relationships, resolve to make this one different. Use the emotional distance to think clearly about what you want from a long-term relationship. If your partner doesn’t measure up, make the hiatus permanent."
Source: Two of Us
Some people love the “highs” of a tumultuous relationship so much that they readily accept the lows—the fights, the break ups, the tears. But in healthy relationships, you are not always going to feel a “high.” Eventually, your emotions and hormones will level off—at this point you can determine if you and your partner have what it takes to make your relationship last.
Another reason some people seem to get caught up in an on-again/off-again relationship is simply out of habit. They are used to being in a relationship, and when they’re not in one, a few days of loneliness can spur an unhappy person into giving an ex a second (or third, or fourth) chance. However, being single can be a tremendous opportunity for growth, development and self-awareness. And truly—are we ever really alone? Sometimes, surrounding ourselves with friends, family and co-workers is a healthier alternative than being in a relationship that will likely go awry again.
Low self-esteem can also make us vulnerable to on-again, off-again relationships. But healthy self-esteem comes from within—not from a boyfriend or girlfriend. If you are struggling to boost your self-esteem on your own, a professional life coach or counselor is likely to be a better source for helping build your confidence.
If you find yourself in a relationship that seems to be stuck in the on-off cycle, ask yourself why. Why do you consistently go back to this person, knowing the relationship isn’t going to work? What is the core issue between you? Do you have different values and beliefs? Is he/she abusive in some way? Is there an addiction problem? Or perhaps the issue is something fundamental, like you live in different cities and neither of you is willing to compromise. Regardless of the reason your relationship keeps spinning off its wobbly axis, chances are, it’s not going to change.
Granted, there are exceptions. Sometimes being apart can lead to a deeper appreciation of the other person. A reunion can be sweet; it’s tempting to assume your partner has permanently changed for the better. But unless both people are willing to commit to working on the big issues, underlying conflicts will simmer and eventually rear their ugly heads.
So, how can you decide whether it’s time to cut and run for good—or sign on for the long haul? A recent article in Psychology Today recommends the following:
(1) Adopt a worst-case-scenario mindset. Many perpetual relationship “yo-yoers” keep coming back because they assume they can change their partner’s worst habits. But that’s usually wishful thinking, psychotherapist Toni Coleman says. “You have to assume that the behaviors you see will get more entrenched and worse over time. Ask yourself, ‘If that turns out to be the case, will I still want to be in this relationship?’”
(2) Seek advice from a trusted third party. Therapists can fill this role, but family and friends can be just as helpful.
(3) Take a time-out. While hiatuses are par for the course in on-again, off-again relationships, resolve to make this one different. Use the emotional distance to think clearly about what you want from a long-term relationship. If your partner doesn’t measure up, make the hiatus permanent."
Source: Two of Us
Tuesday, September 14, 2010
All I Want is You
Isn’t it ironic that when I wanted you, you didn’t want me and now you want me, but I don’t want you? Life, emotions, love, people: all so very complicated. As my good friend Liz recently mentioned, some people “just don’t value what they have.” We have something, which may not be 100% perfect, yet we let that go because we want something else and when we obtain that something else, we don’t want that either. Then we wish we had what we had before, the thing we had before we got the thing we supposedly really wanted. Confusing!?! Read that last sentence again…slowly. Then we wish we had what we had before…the thing we had before we got the thing we supposedly really wanted. That’s just how some people’s minds work….They are confused. Not content. Selfish.
A couple of weeks ago I sat down and listened to “All I Want is you” by Miguel Jontel and I told myself I had to write about this song. He is reminiscing about the woman that is no longer in his life. She left him and he admits it was his fault. From the sound of it, he wanted to continue his player ways and once he went back to living it up, he realized that there is no substance in the fleeting relationships he is involved in. The “distractions” are not providing him the sustenance he obtained from being with the girl that he let go.
If she was a good woman to him, I hope she has moved on and found someone that will value her true worth. The way this world works though and as unfortunate as it may be, he may come begging, she may say yes and then the roller coaster ride will begin yet again. Have you experienced something similar? Know someone else that did? What was the outcome?
All I Want is You
By: Miguel Jontel ft. J. Cole
Youtube Video
Lyrics
J. Cole
I never thought I see that day that you’re my old girl
Now I’m stuck here hollering at old girl
Got one, Got two, three four girls
Shotgun in the drop made her right
Hut one, Hut two told them niggas take a hike
Then it’s on to the next one on to the next one
Hard to move on when you always regret one
Miguel
I wondered some time. I wondered if I was wrong
Trying to do right by you got me here
Now all I am is alone
Cause honey our closeness and that
don’t compare at all
And I bet all do is distract me but now
Deep down when I face it
Chorus : Miguel
All I want is you
All I want is you
All I want is you now
Now that you’re gone, gone, gone
Miguel
Cause being your friend is killing me softly
I hear voices
Wonder where I went wrong
It was my fault
And the wrong time I wonder so often
Regret gets exhaustin’
Cause hon our closeness and that
Don’t compare at all
And I bet all they do is distract me but now
Deep down when I face it
Chorus : Miguel
All I want is you
All I want is you now
All I want is you now
Sugar, now that you’re gone, gone, gone
All I want is you
All I want is you now
All I want is you now
Baby, now that you’re gone, gone, gone
Miguel
Cause they don’t smile or smell like you
Cause they don’t make me laugh or even cook like you
Girl they don’t photograph, nah they don’t sex like you
Let face it I can’t replace
that’s why All I want is you
J Cole
I hit the club when you left me thinking that could heal
Trying to celebrate my Independence Day Will Smith
Baby gurl who I’m kidding
still sick Real sh!t
All my new bit*hes seem to get old real quick
Could it be you everything these plain bit*hes couldn’t be
Is it a sign from the Lord that I shouldn’t be
Lost in the Player way sorta get old to me
Got me on layaway, Girl you gotta a hold on me
I say I’m wrong, You say come again
Damn said I was wrong look don’t rub it in
I got a lot on my mind
Got a flock full of dimes
Like a line full of hoes, Look how they coming in
Just saying
you don’t wanna have me then somebody will
I’m playing
Weight on my chest like I body build
I’m praying
You ain’t content with trying to do your thang
Hey come back baby boomerang
Miguel
That’s why
All I want is you now
All I want is you now
All I want ïs you now
Sugar, now that you’re gone, gone, gone, gone
You know that you’re gone
A couple of weeks ago I sat down and listened to “All I Want is you” by Miguel Jontel and I told myself I had to write about this song. He is reminiscing about the woman that is no longer in his life. She left him and he admits it was his fault. From the sound of it, he wanted to continue his player ways and once he went back to living it up, he realized that there is no substance in the fleeting relationships he is involved in. The “distractions” are not providing him the sustenance he obtained from being with the girl that he let go.
If she was a good woman to him, I hope she has moved on and found someone that will value her true worth. The way this world works though and as unfortunate as it may be, he may come begging, she may say yes and then the roller coaster ride will begin yet again. Have you experienced something similar? Know someone else that did? What was the outcome?
All I Want is You
By: Miguel Jontel ft. J. Cole
Youtube Video
Lyrics
J. Cole
I never thought I see that day that you’re my old girl
Now I’m stuck here hollering at old girl
Got one, Got two, three four girls
Shotgun in the drop made her right
Hut one, Hut two told them niggas take a hike
Then it’s on to the next one on to the next one
Hard to move on when you always regret one
Miguel
I wondered some time. I wondered if I was wrong
Trying to do right by you got me here
Now all I am is alone
Cause honey our closeness and that
don’t compare at all
And I bet all do is distract me but now
Deep down when I face it
Chorus : Miguel
All I want is you
All I want is you
All I want is you now
Now that you’re gone, gone, gone
Miguel
Cause being your friend is killing me softly
I hear voices
Wonder where I went wrong
It was my fault
And the wrong time I wonder so often
Regret gets exhaustin’
Cause hon our closeness and that
Don’t compare at all
And I bet all they do is distract me but now
Deep down when I face it
Chorus : Miguel
All I want is you
All I want is you now
All I want is you now
Sugar, now that you’re gone, gone, gone
All I want is you
All I want is you now
All I want is you now
Baby, now that you’re gone, gone, gone
Miguel
Cause they don’t smile or smell like you
Cause they don’t make me laugh or even cook like you
Girl they don’t photograph, nah they don’t sex like you
Let face it I can’t replace
that’s why All I want is you
J Cole
I hit the club when you left me thinking that could heal
Trying to celebrate my Independence Day Will Smith
Baby gurl who I’m kidding
still sick Real sh!t
All my new bit*hes seem to get old real quick
Could it be you everything these plain bit*hes couldn’t be
Is it a sign from the Lord that I shouldn’t be
Lost in the Player way sorta get old to me
Got me on layaway, Girl you gotta a hold on me
I say I’m wrong, You say come again
Damn said I was wrong look don’t rub it in
I got a lot on my mind
Got a flock full of dimes
Like a line full of hoes, Look how they coming in
Just saying
you don’t wanna have me then somebody will
I’m playing
Weight on my chest like I body build
I’m praying
You ain’t content with trying to do your thang
Hey come back baby boomerang
Miguel
That’s why
All I want is you now
All I want is you now
All I want ïs you now
Sugar, now that you’re gone, gone, gone, gone
You know that you’re gone
Monday, September 13, 2010
Friday, September 10, 2010
Thursday, September 9, 2010
Only Girl (in the World)
Imagine for a couple of seconds the following:
* Your significant other only expresses love and affection behind closed doors.
* When you are out in public, it seems like you are not in a relationship (no PDA, no pictures can be taken, etc).
* On facebook - what could be a relationship killer - every man, woman and child, east coast, west coast and world wide, is poking them, writing on their pictures with that annoying flirtatious winky face ;) and they are letting it happen (even better yet, they may be feeding into it by writing back), essentially showing others that this sort of behavior is okay...that the door is open.
How would that make you feel? Wouldn't you feel like you are not the only one in their world? That you are not the only one they'll ever love? That they may be sharing their heart with another/others?
The chorus of Rihanna's new single entitled "Only Girl" (below) says:
"Want you to make me feel like I’m the only girl in the world
Like I’m the only one that you’ll ever love
Like I’m the only one who knows your heart"
Attention, love, affection, showing your lady off as your pride and joy, these are all things that help women feel secure in a relationship. Men want to know that the woman by their side is proud when they walk arm in arm. So, essentially, we want the same things. Whether it's behind closed doors, or out and about, we want to feel security and love in our relationship. We want to know that our man is not turning around to see the next chic (or man for that matter) walking past. We want to know that he is turning other women down...even the perritas who insist that it is okay to cheat. Normal women want security, fidelity, love and open, honest communication (and those things I wrote above...and maybe help around the house...and help with the children's homework every now and again and ...)… alright, alright, we mayyyy seem demanding sometimes, but aren't those some of the basic fundamental building blocks of true, loving relationships?
Video
Download: http://www.gwizmusik.com
ONLY GIRL
By: Rihanna
[VERSE 1]
I want you to love me, like I’m a hot pie
Keep thinkin’ of me, doin’ what you like
So boy forget about the world cuz it’s gon’ be me and you tonight
I wanna make your bed for ya, then imma make you swallow your pride
[CHORUS 1]
Want you to make me feel like I’m the only girl in the world
Like I’m the only one that you’ll ever love
Like I’m the only one who knows your heart
Only girl in the world…
[CHORUS 2]
Like I’m the only one that’s in command
Cuz I’m the only one who understands how to make you feel like a man
(CHORUS 1)
[VERSE 2]
Want you to take me, like a thief in the night
Hold me like a pillow, make me feel right
Baby I’ll tell you all my secrets that I’m keepin’, you can come inside
And when you enter, you ain’t leavin’, be my prisoner for the night
(CHORUS 1)
[BRIDGE x2]
Take me for a ride
Oh baby, take me high, high
Let me make you first
Oh make it last all night
(CHORUS 1, CHORUS 2)
Only girl in the world, girl in the world (x2)
* Your significant other only expresses love and affection behind closed doors.
* When you are out in public, it seems like you are not in a relationship (no PDA, no pictures can be taken, etc).
* On facebook - what could be a relationship killer - every man, woman and child, east coast, west coast and world wide, is poking them, writing on their pictures with that annoying flirtatious winky face ;) and they are letting it happen (even better yet, they may be feeding into it by writing back), essentially showing others that this sort of behavior is okay...that the door is open.
How would that make you feel? Wouldn't you feel like you are not the only one in their world? That you are not the only one they'll ever love? That they may be sharing their heart with another/others?
The chorus of Rihanna's new single entitled "Only Girl" (below) says:
"Want you to make me feel like I’m the only girl in the world
Like I’m the only one that you’ll ever love
Like I’m the only one who knows your heart"
Attention, love, affection, showing your lady off as your pride and joy, these are all things that help women feel secure in a relationship. Men want to know that the woman by their side is proud when they walk arm in arm. So, essentially, we want the same things. Whether it's behind closed doors, or out and about, we want to feel security and love in our relationship. We want to know that our man is not turning around to see the next chic (or man for that matter) walking past. We want to know that he is turning other women down...even the perritas who insist that it is okay to cheat. Normal women want security, fidelity, love and open, honest communication (and those things I wrote above...and maybe help around the house...and help with the children's homework every now and again and ...)… alright, alright, we mayyyy seem demanding sometimes, but aren't those some of the basic fundamental building blocks of true, loving relationships?
Video
Download: http://www.gwizmusik.com
ONLY GIRL
By: Rihanna
[VERSE 1]
I want you to love me, like I’m a hot pie
Keep thinkin’ of me, doin’ what you like
So boy forget about the world cuz it’s gon’ be me and you tonight
I wanna make your bed for ya, then imma make you swallow your pride
[CHORUS 1]
Want you to make me feel like I’m the only girl in the world
Like I’m the only one that you’ll ever love
Like I’m the only one who knows your heart
Only girl in the world…
[CHORUS 2]
Like I’m the only one that’s in command
Cuz I’m the only one who understands how to make you feel like a man
(CHORUS 1)
[VERSE 2]
Want you to take me, like a thief in the night
Hold me like a pillow, make me feel right
Baby I’ll tell you all my secrets that I’m keepin’, you can come inside
And when you enter, you ain’t leavin’, be my prisoner for the night
(CHORUS 1)
[BRIDGE x2]
Take me for a ride
Oh baby, take me high, high
Let me make you first
Oh make it last all night
(CHORUS 1, CHORUS 2)
Only girl in the world, girl in the world (x2)
(S)He Keeps on Passing me By
"Find Your Love
Let me ask you a question, do you think that you’ve already met the person that you will spend your life with, or has that person not entered your life yet? Take some time to think about it – your answer may say more about who you are than you think.
If you think that the person that you will marry is already in your life than perhaps you are already in a relationship with that person. If that’s the case then what is keeping you from making that jump? Too young? Scared of commitment? Trust issues? Something is keeping you from walking down that aisle and you need to figure it out and fix it. If you’re not in a relationship and that person is in your life, then you could be someone that is scared to take a risk. You should go up to that girl who you see at that coffee shop every morning or that guy that you see walking his daughter home from school in the afternoon. It could be a long-time friend of yours who you’ve dismissed because you two were never “single at the same time”. The best relationships often start as friendships so make that move.
If you think that special person has not entered your life then maybe there is a flaw on your part when it comes to relationships. When we break up with people, we often find faults in the other party and chalk it up to him or her not being "the one". But maybe the problem is you and you should make more of an attempt to make the next relationship work. People who believe they are still waiting to meet "Mr. or Ms. Right" may be people who are impossible to please – people who are searching for perfection that doesn’t exist. Perhaps you take the smallest imperfection and use that as an excuse to push them away. You may need to realize that the perfect person for you is far from perfect.
Love has a weird way of appearing and disappearing on a moment’s notice. The problem that we all have is we constantly over analyze and complicate our situations and we allow opportunities to pass us by. The truth is we’ve probably all met someone who could have or should have been our future spouses but something got in the way and that chance was lost. And no matter who you are, the next “the one” will come into your life again someday. And when he or she does...
Just remember to hold on tight and don't let go."
Source: Straightpen: She keeps on passing me by
Let me ask you a question, do you think that you’ve already met the person that you will spend your life with, or has that person not entered your life yet? Take some time to think about it – your answer may say more about who you are than you think.
If you think that the person that you will marry is already in your life than perhaps you are already in a relationship with that person. If that’s the case then what is keeping you from making that jump? Too young? Scared of commitment? Trust issues? Something is keeping you from walking down that aisle and you need to figure it out and fix it. If you’re not in a relationship and that person is in your life, then you could be someone that is scared to take a risk. You should go up to that girl who you see at that coffee shop every morning or that guy that you see walking his daughter home from school in the afternoon. It could be a long-time friend of yours who you’ve dismissed because you two were never “single at the same time”. The best relationships often start as friendships so make that move.
If you think that special person has not entered your life then maybe there is a flaw on your part when it comes to relationships. When we break up with people, we often find faults in the other party and chalk it up to him or her not being "the one". But maybe the problem is you and you should make more of an attempt to make the next relationship work. People who believe they are still waiting to meet "Mr. or Ms. Right" may be people who are impossible to please – people who are searching for perfection that doesn’t exist. Perhaps you take the smallest imperfection and use that as an excuse to push them away. You may need to realize that the perfect person for you is far from perfect.
Love has a weird way of appearing and disappearing on a moment’s notice. The problem that we all have is we constantly over analyze and complicate our situations and we allow opportunities to pass us by. The truth is we’ve probably all met someone who could have or should have been our future spouses but something got in the way and that chance was lost. And no matter who you are, the next “the one” will come into your life again someday. And when he or she does...
Just remember to hold on tight and don't let go."
Source: Straightpen: She keeps on passing me by
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