"I knelt down and gradually took off his clothes, and I saw his penis there, sleeping and unresponsive. This didn't seem to bother him, and I kissed his inner part of his legs, starting at his feet. His penis slowly began to respond, and I touched it, then put it in my mouth and -- unhurriedly, so that he wouldn't interpret this as: "right, get ready for action!" -- I kissed it with all the tenderness of someone who expects nothing in return, and for precisely that reason I got everything I wanted. I saw that he was getting excited, and he began to touch my nipples, circling them with his fingers and he had on that night of total darkness, making me want to have him again between my legs or in my mouth or whatever way he wanted to possess me.
He didn't take off my jacket; he had me life face forwards, with the upper part of my body bent over the table, and my feet still on the floor. He penetrated me slowly and unhurriedly this time, no longer afraid of losing me, because, deep down, he too had realized that this was a dream and that it would always be a dream, and would never become reality.
At the same time as I felt him inside me, I was aware of his hand on my breasts, my buttocks, touching me as only a woman knows how. Then I knew that we were made for each other, because he could be a woman, as he was now, and I could be a man, as when we talked or when we initiated that joint search for the two lost souls, the two missing fragments needed to complete the universe.
As he simultaneously penetrated and touched me, I felt that he was doing this not to me, but to the whole universe. We had time, tenderness and mutual knowledge. Yes, it had been good to arrive carrying two suitcases, and to be immediately thrown to the floor and penetrated with the kind of fearful urgency; but it was good too knowing that the night would never end and that there, on the kitchen table, orgasm wasn't a goal in itself, but the beginning of the encounter.
He stopped moving inside me while his fingers worked quickly and I had one, two, three orgasms in a row. I felt like pushing him away, for the pain of pleasure is so intense that it hurts, but I resisted: I accepted that this was how it was, that I could withstand another orgasm or another two, or even more...
...and suddenly, a kind of light exploded inside me. I was no longer myself, but a being infinitely superior to everything I knew. When his hand took me to my fourth orgasm, I entered a place where everything seemed at peace, and with my fifth orgasm I knew God. Then I felt him beginning to move inside me again, although his hand had still not stopped, and I said "Oh God," and surrendered to whatever came next, Heaven or Hell.
It was Heaven. I was the earth, the mountains, the tigers, the rivers that flowed into the rivers that flowed into the lakes, the lakes that became the sea. He was thrusting faster and faster now, and the pain was mingled with pleasure and I could have said: "I can't take any more," but that would have been unfair, because, by then, he and I were one person.
I allowed him to penetrate me for as long as it took; his nails were now digging into my buttocks, and there I was face down on the kitchen table, thinking that there wasn't a better place in the world to make love. Again the creak of the table, his breathing growing ever faster, his nails bruising me, my sex beating hard against his, flesh against flesh, bone against bone, and I was about to have another orgasm, and so was he, and none of this, absolutely none of this was a LIE!
"Come on!"
He knew what he was saying, and I knew that this was the moment; I felt my whole body soften, I ceased to be myself--I was no longer listening, seeing or tasting anything--I was merely feeling.
"Come on!"
And I came at the same moment he came. It wasn't eleven minutes, it was an eternity, it was as if we had both left our bodies and were walking joyfully through the gardens of paradise in understanding and friendship.
Time returned, I heard his shouts and I shouted with him, the table legs beat on the floor, and it didn't occur to either of us to wonder what the rest of the world might be thinking.
And suddenly he withdrew from me and laughed; I felt my vagina contract, and I turned to him and I laughed too, and we embraced as if it were the first time we had made love in our entire lives."
"Eleven Minutes" by Paulo Coehlo Pages 259-262
Monday, May 11, 2009
Friday, May 8, 2009
Honey, where is your G-Spot?
Why is it that most couple's do not openly discuss their sexuality? Important aspects of their sex lives such as what makes them feel good...what they don't like...what they wish their partner would do....or...not do, are all semi-taboo topics that intimate partners rarely discuss. Sex is something that is incredibly significant in a relationship, so why do we shun conversations about how to improve our sex lives? Is it because we don't have time to discuss? Or is it because we think we know what we're doing? Or are we scared to find out that we are not pleasing our partner sexually?
I recently finished a book called "Eleven Minutes" by Paulo Coehlo that openly discusses the topic of Sex. He explores the life of a young prostitute called Maria. "In [Maria's] personal experience, the desire to have a good orgasm with one's partner lasted only for the first few years; then the frequency of orgasms diminished, but no one talked about it, because every woman thought it was her problem alone." I don’t believe it should only be a woman's problem. She should be able to discuss her sexual needs, wants & fantasies with her partner. I've heard that most people don't know how to please a woman in bed (which at times includes the woman herself), so the book goes into detail about how to take on this task. A quiet librarian in the book asks the question: "Do you know what the G-spot is?" When comparing it to a building, Mr. Coehlo describes the location of the G-spot: "As you go in on the first floor, the back window."
Most of the women I have spoken to about this taboo topic, or articles I have read, explain that it is very difficult, if not impossible for them (women) to have an orgasm through penetration alone. The quiet librarian in the book states the following: "We've got to go back to the basics, to what has always given us pleasure: the clitoris and the G-spot! Very few women enjoy a satisfactory sexual relationship, so if you have difficult in getting the pleasure you deserve, let me suggest something: change position. Make your lover lie down and you stay on top; your clitoris will strike his body harder and you -- not he -- will be getting the stimulus you need. Or rather, the stimulus you deserve! If you rub your finger around [your clitoris] without touching the actual tip, you can experience even more intense pleasure. So take note! Men who do respect a woman's body immediately touch the tip, not knowing that this can sometimes be quite painful. Try to think of your clitoris as the hands of a clock and ask your partner to move it back and forth between eleven and one, do you understand?"
So, that being said, I believe that before all of the action takes place, the most important thing to do is to discuss your sexual needs and wants with your partner. In the book "Act Like a lady, Think Like a Man", Steve Harvey suggests to discuss the topic while in the act. Don't wait until you are at the dinner table, or in the middle of an argument to bring up changing your partners bedroom repertoire. Steve Harvey states that "When you question our sexual abilities, we [men] get really nervous and really self-conscious really quickly." Bring up the topic while you are in the middle of love making. "Say something like, 'oh, I like it when you do this,' or "that's nice baby, now do it this way,' and watch him go to work." Bring it up with care and as long as your partner is willing to work with you, you will both have a pleasurable sexual relationship with one another.
"Eleven Minutes" by Paulo Coehlo Pages 221-forward
"Act Like a lady, Think Like a Man" by Steve Harvey pages 215-216
Email me at FreeHeartsAndMinds@gmail.com if you are interested in receiving a free copy of "Act Like a lady, Think Like a Man" by Steve Harvey.
I recently finished a book called "Eleven Minutes" by Paulo Coehlo that openly discusses the topic of Sex. He explores the life of a young prostitute called Maria. "In [Maria's] personal experience, the desire to have a good orgasm with one's partner lasted only for the first few years; then the frequency of orgasms diminished, but no one talked about it, because every woman thought it was her problem alone." I don’t believe it should only be a woman's problem. She should be able to discuss her sexual needs, wants & fantasies with her partner. I've heard that most people don't know how to please a woman in bed (which at times includes the woman herself), so the book goes into detail about how to take on this task. A quiet librarian in the book asks the question: "Do you know what the G-spot is?" When comparing it to a building, Mr. Coehlo describes the location of the G-spot: "As you go in on the first floor, the back window."
Most of the women I have spoken to about this taboo topic, or articles I have read, explain that it is very difficult, if not impossible for them (women) to have an orgasm through penetration alone. The quiet librarian in the book states the following: "We've got to go back to the basics, to what has always given us pleasure: the clitoris and the G-spot! Very few women enjoy a satisfactory sexual relationship, so if you have difficult in getting the pleasure you deserve, let me suggest something: change position. Make your lover lie down and you stay on top; your clitoris will strike his body harder and you -- not he -- will be getting the stimulus you need. Or rather, the stimulus you deserve! If you rub your finger around [your clitoris] without touching the actual tip, you can experience even more intense pleasure. So take note! Men who do respect a woman's body immediately touch the tip, not knowing that this can sometimes be quite painful. Try to think of your clitoris as the hands of a clock and ask your partner to move it back and forth between eleven and one, do you understand?"
So, that being said, I believe that before all of the action takes place, the most important thing to do is to discuss your sexual needs and wants with your partner. In the book "Act Like a lady, Think Like a Man", Steve Harvey suggests to discuss the topic while in the act. Don't wait until you are at the dinner table, or in the middle of an argument to bring up changing your partners bedroom repertoire. Steve Harvey states that "When you question our sexual abilities, we [men] get really nervous and really self-conscious really quickly." Bring up the topic while you are in the middle of love making. "Say something like, 'oh, I like it when you do this,' or "that's nice baby, now do it this way,' and watch him go to work." Bring it up with care and as long as your partner is willing to work with you, you will both have a pleasurable sexual relationship with one another.
"Eleven Minutes" by Paulo Coehlo Pages 221-forward
"Act Like a lady, Think Like a Man" by Steve Harvey pages 215-216
Email me at FreeHeartsAndMinds@gmail.com if you are interested in receiving a free copy of "Act Like a lady, Think Like a Man" by Steve Harvey.
Tuesday, May 5, 2009
Saturday, May 2, 2009
THE TWELVE TYPES OF FEMALES
Not sure the source....but it's a pretty good read.
1. Ms. Gold-Digger
Advantages
a. You have some one to manage your money.
b. She always looks good.
c. She makes your other boys jealous.
d. She makes you look good.
Disadvantages
a. When you get broke she'll be gone and take what you have left.
b. She makes sure she has a child by you to sue you for child support.
c. Once your boy comes up she'll be on his arm the next day.
2. Ms. Freak (secret lover)
Advantages
a. She knows all the right positions.
b. She'll try everything more than once.
c. You're never unsatisfied.
d. She'll do all the things your girl won't do.
e. She doesn't mind being your freak, as long as she catches one too.
Disadvantages
a. Eventually, because she's a female, she'll end up catching feelings.
b. She starts to act like she's your "main".
c. She fucks wit ya boy and acts like your in the wrong for telling her that she's a freak.
d. Eventually her shit gets old and you need a replacement.
3. Ms. Independent
Advantages
a. You don't have to worry about buying her anything. She got it.
b. She's intelligent, sassy, confident and determined.
c. She's great for (business) conversation.
d. She keeps it real and has goals.
e. She knows how to please a man.
Disadvantages
a. She will continuously let you know that she can handle it on her own.
b. She will eventually say fuck you and get a vibrator.
c. She will consider you another one of her play toys or goals.
4. Ms. Dyme
Advantages
a. She's top of the line.
b. She stays looking like a fantasy.
c. She has the body of a goddess with the face to match.
d. She considers herself a "model".
e. Gets you on hard whenever you see her.
f. All the girls envy her, but she doesn't care.
Disadvantages
a. She's superficial. She cares only about her looks.
b. She honestly lacks confidence and will annoy you about the way she looks.
c. She's probably dumb as hell and if she's not her personality is dry.
d. You have to constantly keep your game up because every guy is gonna try to get her.
5. Ms. Tomboy
Advantages
a. She's cool and laid back.
b. She'll be willing to play rough with you.
c. Of course, she loves sports.
d. Her body is athletically divine.
e. She's easy to talk to and fun to be around.
f. She's a diamond in the rough.
Disadvantages
a. She'll remind you too much of your boys.
b. She might not want to change her appearance.
c. She might actually beat you in basketball, football, and track.
6. Ms. Ghetto
Advantages
a. She's not afraid of any other female or male. She will fight to keep you.
b. She's down for you. She'll be there to bail you out of jail.
c. She's always stays fresh.
d. She can cook up a storm. She can make the best out of a bad situation.
e. She keeps it real and keeps you satisfied.
Disadvantages
a. She doesn't know how to act in public.
b. Your momma can't stand her.
c. You get into it with her every other second.
d. She's willing to fight another girl looking at you or her.
e. Her weave colors are distracting and her vocabulary is minimal.
7. Ms. Good Girl
Advantages
a. She's always there for you.
b. She's intelligent, classy, kind, sweet, and cool.
c. Your mother loves her.
d. You can see yourself falling in love with her.
e. You are her first everything.
f. She makes you feel like a man.
Disadvantages
a. She's an A or B situation either:
A. You're not gonna get any until you're are married.
B. She said she's never done or she said she's never tried - she's sitting there telling a lie.
8. Ms. Main
Advantages
a. She is the one you respect.
b. She probably knows about the others but might not care.
c. She has all the qualities you want in a female.
d. You've been with her forever.
Disadvantages
a. She starts getting very suspicious and calls you every moment.
b. She will devise a plan to catch you in your act and then kick your ass
9. Ms. Psycho
Advantages
a. She's fun and spontaneous.
b. She's down to earth.
c. She loves you unconditionally.
d. Everything about her is too good to be true. So everyone loves her.
e. She makes you feel loved.
Disadvantages
a. Don't you break up with her, she will stalk your ass.
b. She keeps pictures of you everywhere and knows everything about you.
c. She can manipulate the hell out of you.
d. She will consider herself wifey even if she may just be that chick on the side.
e. Fuckin' with her can make your life a living hell.
10. Ms. I have a Man
Advantages
a. She may have a man but she'll mess with you anyway.
b. She looks good.
c. You have an intense night of passion with her.
Disadvantages
a. She'll always come crying to you about the problems with her man.
b. She'll get you caught up and then leave you anyway for her man.
c. If you piss her off she'll get her man to come beat your ass.
d. She'll unofficially make you her man once she gets pissed off at her real man.
11. Ms. Tease
Advantages
a. She's tempting and a nice piece of eye candy.
b. She's intelligent, athletic, respectable and SEXXXY.
c. She knows how to turn you on without touching you.
d. Everything she does is just so sensual.
e. She can bring you to that point and make you wait to get it.
f. Every time you see her you catch a mini orgasm.
g. Every guy wants her because she's so mysterious and that makes you want to get her first.
Disadvantages
a. NO matter what you think or do you never get it.
b. She probably has a long distance boyfriend somewhere that you will never know about.
c. She gets you hard and leaves you like that. (Unbearable)
12. MRS. RIGHT
Advantages
a. She is not sexy, fine, or a dyme. She is BEAUTIFUL and therefore encompasses all of these descriptions.
b. She is intelligent, sassy, funny, outgoing, determined, strong and classy.
c. She can cook or at least order a meal that is just like your mother's.
d. Her personality is just as beautiful as her body.
e. She believes in God and follows his virtues.
f. She knows that a relationship requires a 200% quota yet she gives her man an extra 10%. She can please her man in anyway- mentally, spiritually, and sexually.
h. She makes you recognize your full potential as a man and completes you.
i. She's always there for you, no matter what your dreams are.
j. She's not afraid to tell you the truth and set you straight.
k. You can talk to her and confide in her, she's your best friend.
l. You love being around her more than your boys.
m. You can share your most intimate moments with her without sex.
n. You can have a bad argument with her and have the BEST mind numbing and passionate love making marathon ever.
o. She's always willing to find a way to work out your problems and will often take most of your bullshit. But she's also intelligent enough to leave.
p. She's nothing like any other girl you've met. She's your woman.
Disadvantage
a. You've probably met her, or had her in your life, but got too consumed with all the other types of females and bullshit that you let her go.
1. Ms. Gold-Digger
Advantages
a. You have some one to manage your money.
b. She always looks good.
c. She makes your other boys jealous.
d. She makes you look good.
Disadvantages
a. When you get broke she'll be gone and take what you have left.
b. She makes sure she has a child by you to sue you for child support.
c. Once your boy comes up she'll be on his arm the next day.
2. Ms. Freak (secret lover)
Advantages
a. She knows all the right positions.
b. She'll try everything more than once.
c. You're never unsatisfied.
d. She'll do all the things your girl won't do.
e. She doesn't mind being your freak, as long as she catches one too.
Disadvantages
a. Eventually, because she's a female, she'll end up catching feelings.
b. She starts to act like she's your "main".
c. She fucks wit ya boy and acts like your in the wrong for telling her that she's a freak.
d. Eventually her shit gets old and you need a replacement.
3. Ms. Independent
Advantages
a. You don't have to worry about buying her anything. She got it.
b. She's intelligent, sassy, confident and determined.
c. She's great for (business) conversation.
d. She keeps it real and has goals.
e. She knows how to please a man.
Disadvantages
a. She will continuously let you know that she can handle it on her own.
b. She will eventually say fuck you and get a vibrator.
c. She will consider you another one of her play toys or goals.
4. Ms. Dyme
Advantages
a. She's top of the line.
b. She stays looking like a fantasy.
c. She has the body of a goddess with the face to match.
d. She considers herself a "model".
e. Gets you on hard whenever you see her.
f. All the girls envy her, but she doesn't care.
Disadvantages
a. She's superficial. She cares only about her looks.
b. She honestly lacks confidence and will annoy you about the way she looks.
c. She's probably dumb as hell and if she's not her personality is dry.
d. You have to constantly keep your game up because every guy is gonna try to get her.
5. Ms. Tomboy
Advantages
a. She's cool and laid back.
b. She'll be willing to play rough with you.
c. Of course, she loves sports.
d. Her body is athletically divine.
e. She's easy to talk to and fun to be around.
f. She's a diamond in the rough.
Disadvantages
a. She'll remind you too much of your boys.
b. She might not want to change her appearance.
c. She might actually beat you in basketball, football, and track.
6. Ms. Ghetto
Advantages
a. She's not afraid of any other female or male. She will fight to keep you.
b. She's down for you. She'll be there to bail you out of jail.
c. She's always stays fresh.
d. She can cook up a storm. She can make the best out of a bad situation.
e. She keeps it real and keeps you satisfied.
Disadvantages
a. She doesn't know how to act in public.
b. Your momma can't stand her.
c. You get into it with her every other second.
d. She's willing to fight another girl looking at you or her.
e. Her weave colors are distracting and her vocabulary is minimal.
7. Ms. Good Girl
Advantages
a. She's always there for you.
b. She's intelligent, classy, kind, sweet, and cool.
c. Your mother loves her.
d. You can see yourself falling in love with her.
e. You are her first everything.
f. She makes you feel like a man.
Disadvantages
a. She's an A or B situation either:
A. You're not gonna get any until you're are married.
B. She said she's never done or she said she's never tried - she's sitting there telling a lie.
8. Ms. Main
Advantages
a. She is the one you respect.
b. She probably knows about the others but might not care.
c. She has all the qualities you want in a female.
d. You've been with her forever.
Disadvantages
a. She starts getting very suspicious and calls you every moment.
b. She will devise a plan to catch you in your act and then kick your ass
9. Ms. Psycho
Advantages
a. She's fun and spontaneous.
b. She's down to earth.
c. She loves you unconditionally.
d. Everything about her is too good to be true. So everyone loves her.
e. She makes you feel loved.
Disadvantages
a. Don't you break up with her, she will stalk your ass.
b. She keeps pictures of you everywhere and knows everything about you.
c. She can manipulate the hell out of you.
d. She will consider herself wifey even if she may just be that chick on the side.
e. Fuckin' with her can make your life a living hell.
10. Ms. I have a Man
Advantages
a. She may have a man but she'll mess with you anyway.
b. She looks good.
c. You have an intense night of passion with her.
Disadvantages
a. She'll always come crying to you about the problems with her man.
b. She'll get you caught up and then leave you anyway for her man.
c. If you piss her off she'll get her man to come beat your ass.
d. She'll unofficially make you her man once she gets pissed off at her real man.
11. Ms. Tease
Advantages
a. She's tempting and a nice piece of eye candy.
b. She's intelligent, athletic, respectable and SEXXXY.
c. She knows how to turn you on without touching you.
d. Everything she does is just so sensual.
e. She can bring you to that point and make you wait to get it.
f. Every time you see her you catch a mini orgasm.
g. Every guy wants her because she's so mysterious and that makes you want to get her first.
Disadvantages
a. NO matter what you think or do you never get it.
b. She probably has a long distance boyfriend somewhere that you will never know about.
c. She gets you hard and leaves you like that. (Unbearable)
12. MRS. RIGHT
Advantages
a. She is not sexy, fine, or a dyme. She is BEAUTIFUL and therefore encompasses all of these descriptions.
b. She is intelligent, sassy, funny, outgoing, determined, strong and classy.
c. She can cook or at least order a meal that is just like your mother's.
d. Her personality is just as beautiful as her body.
e. She believes in God and follows his virtues.
f. She knows that a relationship requires a 200% quota yet she gives her man an extra 10%. She can please her man in anyway- mentally, spiritually, and sexually.
h. She makes you recognize your full potential as a man and completes you.
i. She's always there for you, no matter what your dreams are.
j. She's not afraid to tell you the truth and set you straight.
k. You can talk to her and confide in her, she's your best friend.
l. You love being around her more than your boys.
m. You can share your most intimate moments with her without sex.
n. You can have a bad argument with her and have the BEST mind numbing and passionate love making marathon ever.
o. She's always willing to find a way to work out your problems and will often take most of your bullshit. But she's also intelligent enough to leave.
p. She's nothing like any other girl you've met. She's your woman.
Disadvantage
a. You've probably met her, or had her in your life, but got too consumed with all the other types of females and bullshit that you let her go.
Friday, May 1, 2009
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