Sex Before Marriage...?

Fitting rooms exist to try on clothes before you buy them. You definitely should try on shoes before buying them (and for women, it’s advisable to try them on at the end of the day when their feet are most swollen). You should see pictures of a contractors work, get a friend or family members opinion or visit previous job sites before contracting them to do work for you. Some of you may have appetizers to taste the chef’s food before ordering the main course. Before purchasing or reading a book, we may read an excerpt, the back of the book or a review. Companies usually go through a test phase before implementing a new system. Most stores give you a thirty-day trial period for clothing, electronics, and other material items before deciding whether or not we would like to return the item(s). Most people usually test drive a car before just signing on the dotted line and purchasing or leasing a new or used vehicle. Some schools even allow potential students to audit a class before paying for and signing up for an entire semester.

All of these scenarios are examples where we TEST something before we COMMIT. Our society is almost accustomed to being able to try something out before investing money, time, effort, etc. When comparing this to our intimate lives, it is usually the same deal. We date numerous individuals before we consider someone our boyfriend/girlfriend. We then have a steady (usually monogamous) relationship before we become engaged and consider our significant other our Fiancé. Then that usually happens for a while before we progress into married life. The “trial period” is then officially over (although some people still consider it a trial).

In one episode of Sex and the City (Season 3), Charlotte waited almost an entire year (actually up until the day before her wedding) before trying her future husband out in bed. That is where she realized he couldn’t get it up! After making ALL of the wedding arrangements and paying A LOT of money to prepare for one of her most important days, she had to re-consider whether or not spending her life with someone she could not enjoy sex with was really a good idea. As sex is considered a decent slice of the pie when thinking about the major components of our lives, wouldn’t you want to make sure you actually enjoy sex with the person you are committing the rest of your life to?

In this day and age, if trying before buying is acceptable and even recommended, then Sex before Marriage, makes logical sense too, right? Or wrong? Thoughts?? Also, if you could go back in time, would you change anything about when you started having sex?