As much as the truth hurts, sometimes it's better to speak the truth than be caught in a lie.
Friday, December 30, 2011
Tell the truth!
As much as the truth hurts, sometimes it's better to speak the truth than be caught in a lie.
Sunday, November 13, 2011
5 minutes
It’s sad to see or hear an elderly woman cry while expressing that she has no one to love her and care for her because her husband has passed, her children are grown and have moved on and her grandchildren barely make time to visit. It’s especially sad when that older woman is your very own grandmother. My grandmother turned 82 two days ago. I forgot to call her. I forgot to buy her a present. I forgot to stop by and give her a hug and kiss and tell her how much I love her.
How could I be such a horrible granddaughter? SHE called ME on HER birthday and I was too busy to call her back, so I called her a day later and she was very happy to hear my voice. When she reminded me about her birthday, it broke my heart. Her voice of sadness as she spoke about being lonely day and night, brings me stabbing pains to my chest because I could easily remedy her pain by being there. By taking 5 minutes to call her every couple of days or an hour a week to visit her. One simple hour, out of the 168 given to us in one week could make her the happiest woman ever, yet life gets in the way.
Things have got to change. I need to value both of my grandmothers while they are here on earth. While they can recount stories of a time I never knew. While they can give me wisdom I could never read in a book or see on the history channel. I need to be more aware of the beauty and importance that is family. Things have to change and I have to be the catalyst for that change.
Have you spoken to your grandparent(s) lately?
How could I be such a horrible granddaughter? SHE called ME on HER birthday and I was too busy to call her back, so I called her a day later and she was very happy to hear my voice. When she reminded me about her birthday, it broke my heart. Her voice of sadness as she spoke about being lonely day and night, brings me stabbing pains to my chest because I could easily remedy her pain by being there. By taking 5 minutes to call her every couple of days or an hour a week to visit her. One simple hour, out of the 168 given to us in one week could make her the happiest woman ever, yet life gets in the way.
Things have got to change. I need to value both of my grandmothers while they are here on earth. While they can recount stories of a time I never knew. While they can give me wisdom I could never read in a book or see on the history channel. I need to be more aware of the beauty and importance that is family. Things have to change and I have to be the catalyst for that change.
Have you spoken to your grandparent(s) lately?
Saturday, October 15, 2011
the greatest irony of LOVE
"the greatest irony of love:
loving the right person at the wrong time,
having the wrong person when the time is right and finding out you love someone right after that person walks out of your life.
and sometimes, you think you’re already over a person, but when you see them smile at you, you’ll suddenly realize that you’re just pretending to be over them to ease the pain of knowing that they will never be yours again.
for some, they think that letting go is one way of expressing how much you love the person.. and some are afraid to see the one they love being held by someone else.
most relationships tend to fail not because of the absence of love. love is always present. it’s just that one was being loved too much and the other was being loved too little.
as we all know that the heart is the center of the body but it beats on the left. maybe that’s the reason why the heart is not always right.
most often, we fall in love with the person we think we love but only to discover that for them, we are just to pass the time.
while the one who truly loves us remains either a friend or a stranger.
so here’s a piece of advice: let go when you’re hurting too much.
give up when love isn’t enough,
and move on when things are not like before.
for sure, there is someone out there who will love you even more"
- A hopeless romantic that calls himself Chocolissous
loving the right person at the wrong time,
having the wrong person when the time is right and finding out you love someone right after that person walks out of your life.
and sometimes, you think you’re already over a person, but when you see them smile at you, you’ll suddenly realize that you’re just pretending to be over them to ease the pain of knowing that they will never be yours again.
for some, they think that letting go is one way of expressing how much you love the person.. and some are afraid to see the one they love being held by someone else.
most relationships tend to fail not because of the absence of love. love is always present. it’s just that one was being loved too much and the other was being loved too little.
as we all know that the heart is the center of the body but it beats on the left. maybe that’s the reason why the heart is not always right.
most often, we fall in love with the person we think we love but only to discover that for them, we are just to pass the time.
while the one who truly loves us remains either a friend or a stranger.
so here’s a piece of advice: let go when you’re hurting too much.
give up when love isn’t enough,
and move on when things are not like before.
for sure, there is someone out there who will love you even more"
- A hopeless romantic that calls himself Chocolissous
Wednesday, October 5, 2011
I need to fit
If I can't see myself easily being photoshopped into the pictures of your life (the ones you post of yourself with your family and close friends), I simply can't see myself in a relationship with you. Is this crazy talk or do you feel the same? What are your thoughts when considering a new relationship?
Tuesday, October 4, 2011
10 SIGNS THAT SHE'S A BOOTYCALL
This is Hysterical and So True!
Ladies...no need to get offended. This information is coming from a man so listen up!
10 SIGNS THAT SHE'S A BOOTYCALL
Watch on Youtube
Ladies...no need to get offended. This information is coming from a man so listen up!
10 SIGNS THAT SHE'S A BOOTYCALL
Watch on Youtube
Friday, August 12, 2011
Thursday, August 11, 2011
The Surprising Habits That Can Sink a Marriage
Can you spot a good marriage? I was pretty sure I could, starting with my own. My husband and I rarely argued, we had similar careers, we shared common interests. Things weren't perfect, but we seemed to be humming along in harmony better than most other couples we knew. In fact, nobody was more surprised than we were when our 17-year marriage ended in a New Jersey divorce court.
It turns out, though, that the signs of trouble had been there all along, if only I'd known what to look for. Instead, I was judging my marriage by the wrong standards—which, I've since learned, most of us do. In one now-famous study, researchers asked therapists, married couples, and others to watch videotaped conversations of ten couples and try to identify the relationships that had ultimately ended in divorce. The results were abysmal—even the therapists guessed wrong half the time.
So how can you diagnose the health of your relationship? Armed with huge volumes of data on married couples, scientists have identified some simple but powerful indicators that can help couples recognize marital strife long before their relationship hits the skids.
The Way You Were
Imagine a couple that go hiking on their first date. In a happy marriage, the wife might tell the story this way: "We got terribly lost that day. It took us hours to find our way back, but we laughed about how neither of us had a good sense of direction. After that, we knew better than to plan another hiking trip!"
But if the relationship was stressed, she might tell the story this way: "He lost the map, and it took hours to find our way back. After that, I never wanted to go hiking again." Same story, but instead of reflecting a sense of togetherness—using pronouns like "we" and "us"—it's laced with negativity. Research has shown that analyzing what's known as the marital narrative—the way you talk about the good and bad times of your early years together—is about 90 percent accurate in predicting which marriages will succeed or fail.
Had I been paying attention, my own how-we-met story could have told me a lot about how I was feeling in my marriage. Early in the relationship, when asked about our first date, I recounted a magical evening that ended with a walk around the Texas capitol building in Austin. I often laughed about the fact that I was limping the whole time because I'd recently had surgery on my foot. But later in my marriage, I changed the story slightly, always adding, "Of course, he didn't even notice."
Fight or Flight
When my husband and I first married, I felt lucky that we almost never fought. But studies show it's a mistake to judge the quality of a relationship by how much or how little you argue, particularly in the early years.
University of Washington researchers studied newlywed couples and learned, not surprisingly, that those who rarely argued were happier in the relationship than those who fought often. But three years later, the findings had reversed. Couples with an early history of bickering had worked out their problems and were more likely to be in stable marriages. The couples who'd avoided conflict early on were more likely to be in troubled relationships or already divorced.
Obviously, fighting that includes violence or verbal abuse is never acceptable. But most marital spats represent an opportunity to resolve conflicts and make things better. "We need to learn to tolerate conflict in our relationships," says Carolyn Cowan, a longtime marriage and family researcher at the University of California, Berkeley.
By Tara Parker-Pope
ARTICLE SOURCE
It turns out, though, that the signs of trouble had been there all along, if only I'd known what to look for. Instead, I was judging my marriage by the wrong standards—which, I've since learned, most of us do. In one now-famous study, researchers asked therapists, married couples, and others to watch videotaped conversations of ten couples and try to identify the relationships that had ultimately ended in divorce. The results were abysmal—even the therapists guessed wrong half the time.
So how can you diagnose the health of your relationship? Armed with huge volumes of data on married couples, scientists have identified some simple but powerful indicators that can help couples recognize marital strife long before their relationship hits the skids.
The Way You Were
Imagine a couple that go hiking on their first date. In a happy marriage, the wife might tell the story this way: "We got terribly lost that day. It took us hours to find our way back, but we laughed about how neither of us had a good sense of direction. After that, we knew better than to plan another hiking trip!"
But if the relationship was stressed, she might tell the story this way: "He lost the map, and it took hours to find our way back. After that, I never wanted to go hiking again." Same story, but instead of reflecting a sense of togetherness—using pronouns like "we" and "us"—it's laced with negativity. Research has shown that analyzing what's known as the marital narrative—the way you talk about the good and bad times of your early years together—is about 90 percent accurate in predicting which marriages will succeed or fail.
Had I been paying attention, my own how-we-met story could have told me a lot about how I was feeling in my marriage. Early in the relationship, when asked about our first date, I recounted a magical evening that ended with a walk around the Texas capitol building in Austin. I often laughed about the fact that I was limping the whole time because I'd recently had surgery on my foot. But later in my marriage, I changed the story slightly, always adding, "Of course, he didn't even notice."
Fight or Flight
When my husband and I first married, I felt lucky that we almost never fought. But studies show it's a mistake to judge the quality of a relationship by how much or how little you argue, particularly in the early years.
University of Washington researchers studied newlywed couples and learned, not surprisingly, that those who rarely argued were happier in the relationship than those who fought often. But three years later, the findings had reversed. Couples with an early history of bickering had worked out their problems and were more likely to be in stable marriages. The couples who'd avoided conflict early on were more likely to be in troubled relationships or already divorced.
Obviously, fighting that includes violence or verbal abuse is never acceptable. But most marital spats represent an opportunity to resolve conflicts and make things better. "We need to learn to tolerate conflict in our relationships," says Carolyn Cowan, a longtime marriage and family researcher at the University of California, Berkeley.
By Tara Parker-Pope
ARTICLE SOURCE
Monday, August 8, 2011
What's mine is mine and what's yours is...mine too!
“Is it dumb to trust the man you love? Is it dumb to believe him when he promises that he’ll be there for you no matter what?” ~Melanie Barnett
“It ain’t about whether you truth them. The only kind of trust that matters is a trust deed or a trust fund.” ~Tasha Mack
Season 1, Disk 3, Episode 2
At some point I thought that trust was enough to keep a relationship intact. The hopeless romantic in me genuinely thought that love and trust would always prevail in relationships. Unfortunately, reality has partially destroyed my idea of this ideal, semi-unrealistic world. There are so many people that enter relationships because of the possibility of gaining money, status, fame, etc. In today’s society, how does someone who is relatively wealthy or famous enter a relationship with someone that doesn’t have as many material/worldly goods, without thinking this new partner is in it to win it? Are pre-nuptual agreements more and more common? What would you think if your significant other required you to sign a pre-nup? If you are married or in a serious long-term relationship, how do you handle your household’s finances? Do you have completely separate accounts? One single account? Or one joint account for household expenses and personal accounts which you can use as you please? Is this method working well? Has it evolved over time?
A growing number of divorces are due to financial differences, whether it’s differences in current/future (even perceived) wealth, spending/saving habits and/or financial infidelity. Financial infidelity is when your partner is not being truthful about how they are handling the households finances. I am a huge saver and I like to spend when needed and on things that I feel will add value to my life (Travel, Education, small Luxuries). I can't see myself being with a person that is a huge spender because financial security is high on my priority list.
What would you do if you find out your partner has been committing financial infidelity. What if they are gambling your mutual money away? Spending money on things that you do not approve of? Not paying the bills on time or at all? Saving large sums of money without telling you (especially if you are struggling with your personal finances)? Would you feel betrayed/used? Would it be easy for you to trust him/her in the future with money? Would you consider splitting up?
How does money affect your relationship?
More on Financial Infidelity
More on Prenuptual Agreements
“It ain’t about whether you truth them. The only kind of trust that matters is a trust deed or a trust fund.” ~Tasha Mack
Season 1, Disk 3, Episode 2
At some point I thought that trust was enough to keep a relationship intact. The hopeless romantic in me genuinely thought that love and trust would always prevail in relationships. Unfortunately, reality has partially destroyed my idea of this ideal, semi-unrealistic world. There are so many people that enter relationships because of the possibility of gaining money, status, fame, etc. In today’s society, how does someone who is relatively wealthy or famous enter a relationship with someone that doesn’t have as many material/worldly goods, without thinking this new partner is in it to win it? Are pre-nuptual agreements more and more common? What would you think if your significant other required you to sign a pre-nup? If you are married or in a serious long-term relationship, how do you handle your household’s finances? Do you have completely separate accounts? One single account? Or one joint account for household expenses and personal accounts which you can use as you please? Is this method working well? Has it evolved over time?
A growing number of divorces are due to financial differences, whether it’s differences in current/future (even perceived) wealth, spending/saving habits and/or financial infidelity. Financial infidelity is when your partner is not being truthful about how they are handling the households finances. I am a huge saver and I like to spend when needed and on things that I feel will add value to my life (Travel, Education, small Luxuries). I can't see myself being with a person that is a huge spender because financial security is high on my priority list.
What would you do if you find out your partner has been committing financial infidelity. What if they are gambling your mutual money away? Spending money on things that you do not approve of? Not paying the bills on time or at all? Saving large sums of money without telling you (especially if you are struggling with your personal finances)? Would you feel betrayed/used? Would it be easy for you to trust him/her in the future with money? Would you consider splitting up?
How does money affect your relationship?
More on Financial Infidelity
More on Prenuptual Agreements
Wednesday, August 3, 2011
Before we sleep together, you should know that I’m sick.*
An Ontario man convicted of first-degree murder in the deaths of two of his sexual partners through HIV transmission has been declared a dangerous offender. He was diagnosed with HIV in 1996 and had unprotected sex with 11 women without telling them he was HIV-positive. Seven of these women later tested positive for HIV and two later died of complications of AIDS.
When it comes to having sex for the first time, whose responsibility is it to discuss sexually transmitted diseases? If you are sick, would you willingly tell your soon-to-be sexual partner that they could potentially get sick? Is it considered (attempted) murder if you know you have HIV/AIDS but don’t tell your partner(s) and they later get sick or die? Is it your responsibility to ask your partner to get tested for your own safety or would it be your partners responsibility to put their business on blast from the very beginning?
What if the person that has a disease (and knows it) doesn’t say anything, but the other person still takes every precaution to stay safe, yet the condom breaks? What if you ask your partner to get tested and they show you false proof and you still get sick? There are so many scenarios that could take place, so is anyone ever safe?
Does it come down to your morals? If you don’t tell someone that you are sick, does that mean you have no morals and values?
In today’s society where cheating is (unfortunately) the norm, how do you tell your supposed monogamous partner that you would like both of you to get tested every 6-12 months? Would they get offended? Would the relationship be tarnished by this simple request? Is this something that is agreed to before the relationship really takes off? Or is it something that is discussed if you start seeing changes in your relationship (they come home later and later/receive messages at odd hours of the day/they become more secretive or defensive)? Or do you bring up recurring testing when you start itching and scratching a little too much down there? By then, is it too late?
My personal belief is that this man should be put in jail indefinitely. He is willingly spreading this horrible disease and should be stopped in his tracks. Just because he got the disease from someone else does not make it right/just that he bring others down with him. Some people may say it's the women's fault for not asking him to get tested or for not using protection, but I believe he could/should have been open about his status.
Also, I think diseases/testing, etc. should be discussed and taken care of before sexual intercourse begins. I would not consider it offensive if my partner asked me to get tested every 6-12 months or if they did for their own sanity. If someone happens to know that they have a sexual problem/disease, they should be open about their issues so that their partner can make an informed decision. It is better to know in advance and be able to make the right decisions, than to be presented with a negative circumstance that may affect you for the rest of life. As adults, we need to be responsible when it comes to sex. There is a great deal of information readily available and being open and honest with yourself and your partner may lead to a much more fulfilling sexual relationship.
Thoughts?
*Not a true statement, but it got your attention right! ;o)
When it comes to having sex for the first time, whose responsibility is it to discuss sexually transmitted diseases? If you are sick, would you willingly tell your soon-to-be sexual partner that they could potentially get sick? Is it considered (attempted) murder if you know you have HIV/AIDS but don’t tell your partner(s) and they later get sick or die? Is it your responsibility to ask your partner to get tested for your own safety or would it be your partners responsibility to put their business on blast from the very beginning?
What if the person that has a disease (and knows it) doesn’t say anything, but the other person still takes every precaution to stay safe, yet the condom breaks? What if you ask your partner to get tested and they show you false proof and you still get sick? There are so many scenarios that could take place, so is anyone ever safe?
Does it come down to your morals? If you don’t tell someone that you are sick, does that mean you have no morals and values?
In today’s society where cheating is (unfortunately) the norm, how do you tell your supposed monogamous partner that you would like both of you to get tested every 6-12 months? Would they get offended? Would the relationship be tarnished by this simple request? Is this something that is agreed to before the relationship really takes off? Or is it something that is discussed if you start seeing changes in your relationship (they come home later and later/receive messages at odd hours of the day/they become more secretive or defensive)? Or do you bring up recurring testing when you start itching and scratching a little too much down there? By then, is it too late?
My personal belief is that this man should be put in jail indefinitely. He is willingly spreading this horrible disease and should be stopped in his tracks. Just because he got the disease from someone else does not make it right/just that he bring others down with him. Some people may say it's the women's fault for not asking him to get tested or for not using protection, but I believe he could/should have been open about his status.
Also, I think diseases/testing, etc. should be discussed and taken care of before sexual intercourse begins. I would not consider it offensive if my partner asked me to get tested every 6-12 months or if they did for their own sanity. If someone happens to know that they have a sexual problem/disease, they should be open about their issues so that their partner can make an informed decision. It is better to know in advance and be able to make the right decisions, than to be presented with a negative circumstance that may affect you for the rest of life. As adults, we need to be responsible when it comes to sex. There is a great deal of information readily available and being open and honest with yourself and your partner may lead to a much more fulfilling sexual relationship.
Thoughts?
*Not a true statement, but it got your attention right! ;o)
Monday, May 30, 2011
Es Demasiado Tarde
I feel this song in the depths of my heart and soul
She does such an amazing job and the lyrics are fantastic
Enjoy!
Es Demasiado Tarde by Ana Gabriel
Watch on Youtube
Tú, quisiste estar allá
dijiste que quizá, ese era tu destino
después que todo te fallo, hoy quieres regresar
y ser feliz conmigo
Pero tu, no piensas que mi amor
por siempre te olvido, y exiges mi cariño
de veras lo siento no podré
volverme a enamorar
de ti ya no es lo mismo
Solo espero que entiendas que un amor
se debe de cuidar y no jugar con nadie
porque yo te daba mi querer y aun sin merecer
no te dolió dejarme
Ahora vuelves, buscando mi calor
diciendo que jamas lograste olvidarme
pero yo te aclaro de una vez
lo debes de entender
es demasiado tarde
Yo no te guardo rencor
pero tampoco amor, de ti ya nada queda
no niego fue mucho mi dolor
pero eso ya paso
mejor ya nunca vuelvas
Solo espero que entiendas que un amor
se debe de cuidar y no jugar con nadie
porque yo te daba mi querer y aun sin merecer
no te dolió dejarme
Ahora vuelves, buscando mi calor
diciendo que jamas lograste olvidarme
pero yo te aclaro de una vez
lo debes de entender
es demasiado tarde
Porque tu, quisiste estar allá
quisiste estar allá
She does such an amazing job and the lyrics are fantastic
Enjoy!
Es Demasiado Tarde by Ana Gabriel
Watch on Youtube
Tú, quisiste estar allá
dijiste que quizá, ese era tu destino
después que todo te fallo, hoy quieres regresar
y ser feliz conmigo
Pero tu, no piensas que mi amor
por siempre te olvido, y exiges mi cariño
de veras lo siento no podré
volverme a enamorar
de ti ya no es lo mismo
Solo espero que entiendas que un amor
se debe de cuidar y no jugar con nadie
porque yo te daba mi querer y aun sin merecer
no te dolió dejarme
Ahora vuelves, buscando mi calor
diciendo que jamas lograste olvidarme
pero yo te aclaro de una vez
lo debes de entender
es demasiado tarde
Yo no te guardo rencor
pero tampoco amor, de ti ya nada queda
no niego fue mucho mi dolor
pero eso ya paso
mejor ya nunca vuelvas
Solo espero que entiendas que un amor
se debe de cuidar y no jugar con nadie
porque yo te daba mi querer y aun sin merecer
no te dolió dejarme
Ahora vuelves, buscando mi calor
diciendo que jamas lograste olvidarme
pero yo te aclaro de una vez
lo debes de entender
es demasiado tarde
Porque tu, quisiste estar allá
quisiste estar allá
Friday, May 27, 2011
Si Yo Fuera Un Chico - Beyoncé
The Colour Of My Love by Celine Dion
I absolutely love this song.
When you find the right one, you will know.
Love is love.
Watch on Youtube
When you find the right one, you will know.
Love is love.
Watch on Youtube
Sunday, May 22, 2011
Can you stop comparing?
“There is no way that the love that I had with Big is the same thing that he has with Natasha.” – Carrie (Sex and the City, Season 2, Ex and the City)
Isn't it crazy how you could feel such a strong connection to someone, but then for whatever reason the relationship doesn't work out and then most relationships after that one are trying to win first place? In life, we compare tastes, clothing, shoes, prices, styles, sounds, colors, textures...in essence, we are always comparing something to something that may or may not be better, so how does one stop comparing when it comes to relationships?
Do you compare the love you felt for someone in the past, to the love you feel for someone in your present? Do you compare the love and affection that either person shows/showed you? Do you compare style of dress, mannerisms, sexual experiences/desire, ways of expressing emotions, laugh, smell, touch, beliefs regarding money/family/religion/culture? Is it a good idea to compare or does it bring more stress to your life? Is it easier to just say "the past didn't work out so just drop it and move on"? Is that easier said than done?
When you have experienced what you believe to be true, genuine love for another human being and you felt that reciprocated, how can you simply not compare anything else to it?
love is love
Sex and the CIty Facebook Page
Isn't it crazy how you could feel such a strong connection to someone, but then for whatever reason the relationship doesn't work out and then most relationships after that one are trying to win first place? In life, we compare tastes, clothing, shoes, prices, styles, sounds, colors, textures...in essence, we are always comparing something to something that may or may not be better, so how does one stop comparing when it comes to relationships?
Do you compare the love you felt for someone in the past, to the love you feel for someone in your present? Do you compare the love and affection that either person shows/showed you? Do you compare style of dress, mannerisms, sexual experiences/desire, ways of expressing emotions, laugh, smell, touch, beliefs regarding money/family/religion/culture? Is it a good idea to compare or does it bring more stress to your life? Is it easier to just say "the past didn't work out so just drop it and move on"? Is that easier said than done?
When you have experienced what you believe to be true, genuine love for another human being and you felt that reciprocated, how can you simply not compare anything else to it?
love is love
Sex and the CIty Facebook Page
Saturday, May 21, 2011
The Rapture
This whole end of the world nonsense really got me thinking about my life today. At around 5:57pm before the “Rapture” was supposed to take place, someone asked me what my last wish would be if it were really going to happen. I told him that I didn’t really have a last wish because I thought I had lived a pretty well rounded, fulfilling and happy life. I have learned a great deal, traveled, impacted other people in what I believe to be a positive way and I have been loved and been in love. What more can I possibly ask for?
Then I thought about it for a little while longer and if it were the end of my life (at this point in my life), I would wonder....
Did I get to tell everyone what I really felt about them (good or bad)?
Did I show my family enough love and affection?
Did I miss out on an important aspect of life by not having started a family?
Do I regret not having pursued certain passions more strongly than others?
Should I have donated more, danced more, laughed more, loved more...or less?
Could I have forgiven you for all of the hurt and pain you (un)knowingly caused me?
Some other things also came to mind....
Would anyone even miss me if I wasn't around anymore?
If so, who?
Who would really, truly, deeply be affected emotionally if I were no longer here?
I may never know the answers to these questions, but at this point I do know that I will continue trying to be as positive as possible and giving of myself as much as I can without letting go of who I am and what makes me uniquely me.
Then I thought about it for a little while longer and if it were the end of my life (at this point in my life), I would wonder....
Did I get to tell everyone what I really felt about them (good or bad)?
Did I show my family enough love and affection?
Did I miss out on an important aspect of life by not having started a family?
Do I regret not having pursued certain passions more strongly than others?
Should I have donated more, danced more, laughed more, loved more...or less?
Could I have forgiven you for all of the hurt and pain you (un)knowingly caused me?
Some other things also came to mind....
Would anyone even miss me if I wasn't around anymore?
If so, who?
Who would really, truly, deeply be affected emotionally if I were no longer here?
I may never know the answers to these questions, but at this point I do know that I will continue trying to be as positive as possible and giving of myself as much as I can without letting go of who I am and what makes me uniquely me.
Monday, May 9, 2011
A Mother
5/8/11
A mother
A woman
A friend
A hero
A mentor
A huge support system
A light at the end of a dark tunnel
Someone to cling to when you are hurting
Someone to look to when your vision is cloudy
Someone who's smile can melt your heart, fix what is wrong and make you happy in just a moment
Someone that doesn't see your flaws, but will easily tell you when you're wrong
Someone that will not only fix your booboo when you are two, but when you are thirty, forty and til her very last breath
Someone that will not only give you advice, they will usually (always) be right too!
A breath of fresh air
A wealth of knowledge
A true warrior and survivor
One of the strongest people you will ever meet...physically, mentally, emotionally and spiritually
One of the most caring beings on the planet
One of the greatest resources you can ever rely on
A reflection of who I am
A reflection of who I wish to become
A reflection of all that is positive and good
A friend
A woman
A mother
Anyone can have a baby, but only a real woman can become a mother.
These are mere words that only touch the surface of who a true mother is. The list is endless and rightfully so, as we could not be where we are today if it weren't for our mothers and all of the caring women in our lives because even those women in our lives that are not mothers are usually motherly, caring, motivating and guiding.
God bless all mothers, God bless all women today and every day of their lives. May they continue giving their gifts are freely as they do and may their love be reciprocated twenty times over.
My mother may never truly know how much she means to me, but the tears of joy that come to my eyes when I think of how wonderful she is are true, they come from my soul and I will continue trying to show her how amazing she is. I know I can be a pain in the butt sometimes so I thank you for being you and for always being there for me. I love you now and will love you always.
Happy Mother's Day
From my soul,
~Yomaris
A mother
A woman
A friend
A hero
A mentor
A huge support system
A light at the end of a dark tunnel
Someone to cling to when you are hurting
Someone to look to when your vision is cloudy
Someone who's smile can melt your heart, fix what is wrong and make you happy in just a moment
Someone that doesn't see your flaws, but will easily tell you when you're wrong
Someone that will not only fix your booboo when you are two, but when you are thirty, forty and til her very last breath
Someone that will not only give you advice, they will usually (always) be right too!
A breath of fresh air
A wealth of knowledge
A true warrior and survivor
One of the strongest people you will ever meet...physically, mentally, emotionally and spiritually
One of the most caring beings on the planet
One of the greatest resources you can ever rely on
A reflection of who I am
A reflection of who I wish to become
A reflection of all that is positive and good
A friend
A woman
A mother
Anyone can have a baby, but only a real woman can become a mother.
These are mere words that only touch the surface of who a true mother is. The list is endless and rightfully so, as we could not be where we are today if it weren't for our mothers and all of the caring women in our lives because even those women in our lives that are not mothers are usually motherly, caring, motivating and guiding.
God bless all mothers, God bless all women today and every day of their lives. May they continue giving their gifts are freely as they do and may their love be reciprocated twenty times over.
My mother may never truly know how much she means to me, but the tears of joy that come to my eyes when I think of how wonderful she is are true, they come from my soul and I will continue trying to show her how amazing she is. I know I can be a pain in the butt sometimes so I thank you for being you and for always being there for me. I love you now and will love you always.
Happy Mother's Day
From my soul,
~Yomaris
Monday, May 2, 2011
Chris Brown - She Ain't You
You break up with someone, start a new relationship, think you have really moved on, but after a while, you realize that this new person (as Chris Brown would say) "doesn't compare"? This person could be incredibly good for you and could treat you exactly how you think you should be treated, but there is simply something off. Something that just doesn't allow you to open up to them. What would you do if you were faced with this situation? Do you let go of your current partner and try to rekindle that old flame? What if you do and you realize that the old flame is now a pile of ashes? What if they have moved on or do not feel the same about you anymore? Do you continue in this new relationship while constantly thinking about the past? Would that be fair to your partner? Would you want that done to you? Why did the old relationship end? Were they legitimate reasons or just excuses for "I'm scared." Is it something you really want to go back to? Has so much time passed that you may realize you have grown apart and are both very different or something you may not really want anymore? Is it better to just do your best to let go of the past and try to move on? Or is it impossible to really move on until you know that it truly could not work with that first person?
What do you do when your every effort to move on is just resulting in dead ends that lead you back to that emotional crossroad?
btw...I couldn't help think this is directed towards Rhianna. Her song below...may have in fact been directed toward Chris....What do you think?
Watch on Youtube
What do you do when your every effort to move on is just resulting in dead ends that lead you back to that emotional crossroad?
btw...I couldn't help think this is directed towards Rhianna. Her song below...may have in fact been directed toward Chris....What do you think?
Watch on Youtube
Monday, April 18, 2011
You're not easy to love
Sometimes relationships can be really complicated. Matters of the heart, emotions, love...can all be very complex. Why certain people fall in love with one another? Why after being hurt by someone over and over again, the heart hurts, but still loves? Why you can let go of someone physically, but mentally and emotionally your attachment doesn't fade? Why true love doesn't see faults, gives excuses for certain behaviors and "sticks around just a little while longer, just to make sure"? Why?
Complicated by Rhianna
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Complicated by Rhianna
Watch on Youtube
Who do you associate with?
Did you know that who you associate with will inevitably affect who you are and how your life plays out in the long run? If you associate with people that are:
*goal oriented
*have positive/healthy relationships with their spouses/children/family members
*are on the right track mentally/at work/at home/at school
*have their finances on order and
*for the most part are moving in the a positive direction, etc.
...you will inevitably and undoubtedly be elevated to a higher level in all aspects of your life. If, however, you notice that the people you are generally surrounded by (whether its on a daily basis or every now and then):
*don't have jobs
*they are stuck in a life of debt
*seem unhappy
*don't have positive, fulfilling relationships with their 'significant' others and/or family members
*are generally taking versus giving, etc.
their ways of being may slowly affect you in a negative way....maybe even without you realizing the effect they are having on your life.
It important to evaluate who you associate with on a daily basis. Listen closely to the conversations you have and see who is providing you with meaningful, thought-provoking, positive energy versus who is always negative and plays the role of a victim in life with no where to turn. The latter person generally sucks the life out of those around them and do not progress/move forward or let others excel. The first group does not. Please enjoy the amazing Daily Word below from Ash Cash. To sign up for his fantastic e-mail list, please visit his website.
Hugs,
~yomaris
*******
Keep Good Company!! -
Daily Word April 18, 2011
Happy Monday my Warriors of Light! Hope you all had a great weekend and are now ready to take over the world!! Today's Daily Word is dedicated to your surroundings and environment. We know that you are what you think about most but who you surround yourself with speaks a great deal to who you are and who you will become as well! If you are spending your days with people or environments that are not conducive to progress and growth then you are setting yourself back! Life is about progression! At every stage you should be learning something new and developing new skills and habits that will bring you closer to greatness! Life isn't charity! I know we all have those people in our lives that we've known forever and feel obligated to, but really think about what those relationships are doing to your success. ONLY A KNIFE CAN SHARPEN A KNIFE!! Your only obligation in life is to be the best that you can be!! As Zig Ziglar once said "Life is too short to spend your precious time trying to convince a person who wants to live in gloom and doom otherwise. Give lifting that person your best shot, but don't hang around long enough for his or her bad attitude to pull you down. Instead, surround yourself with optimistic people."
-Ash'Cash
"Surround yourself with people who are great and you will become greater yourself."
-Michael B. Kitson
"Analyze your life in terms of its environment. Are the things around you helping you toward success - or are they holding you back?"
-W. Clement Stone
"Keep away from those who try to belittle your ambitions. Small people always do that, but the really great make you believe that you too can become great."
-Mark Twain
"Do not be misled: "Bad company corrupts good character"
-Bible
"Be careful the environment you choose for it will shape you; be careful the friends you choose for you will become like them."
-W. Clement Stone
"Surround yourself with only people who are going to lift you higher."
-Oprah Winfrey
"If you're the smartest person in your group, then you need a new group."
-Les Brown
"Surrounding yourself with dwarfs does not make you a giant"
-Yiddish Proverb
*goal oriented
*have positive/healthy relationships with their spouses/children/family members
*are on the right track mentally/at work/at home/at school
*have their finances on order and
*for the most part are moving in the a positive direction, etc.
...you will inevitably and undoubtedly be elevated to a higher level in all aspects of your life. If, however, you notice that the people you are generally surrounded by (whether its on a daily basis or every now and then):
*don't have jobs
*they are stuck in a life of debt
*seem unhappy
*don't have positive, fulfilling relationships with their 'significant' others and/or family members
*are generally taking versus giving, etc.
their ways of being may slowly affect you in a negative way....maybe even without you realizing the effect they are having on your life.
It important to evaluate who you associate with on a daily basis. Listen closely to the conversations you have and see who is providing you with meaningful, thought-provoking, positive energy versus who is always negative and plays the role of a victim in life with no where to turn. The latter person generally sucks the life out of those around them and do not progress/move forward or let others excel. The first group does not. Please enjoy the amazing Daily Word below from Ash Cash. To sign up for his fantastic e-mail list, please visit his website.
Hugs,
~yomaris
*******
Keep Good Company!! -
Daily Word April 18, 2011
Happy Monday my Warriors of Light! Hope you all had a great weekend and are now ready to take over the world!! Today's Daily Word is dedicated to your surroundings and environment. We know that you are what you think about most but who you surround yourself with speaks a great deal to who you are and who you will become as well! If you are spending your days with people or environments that are not conducive to progress and growth then you are setting yourself back! Life is about progression! At every stage you should be learning something new and developing new skills and habits that will bring you closer to greatness! Life isn't charity! I know we all have those people in our lives that we've known forever and feel obligated to, but really think about what those relationships are doing to your success. ONLY A KNIFE CAN SHARPEN A KNIFE!! Your only obligation in life is to be the best that you can be!! As Zig Ziglar once said "Life is too short to spend your precious time trying to convince a person who wants to live in gloom and doom otherwise. Give lifting that person your best shot, but don't hang around long enough for his or her bad attitude to pull you down. Instead, surround yourself with optimistic people."
-Ash'Cash
"Surround yourself with people who are great and you will become greater yourself."
-Michael B. Kitson
"Analyze your life in terms of its environment. Are the things around you helping you toward success - or are they holding you back?"
-W. Clement Stone
"Keep away from those who try to belittle your ambitions. Small people always do that, but the really great make you believe that you too can become great."
-Mark Twain
"Do not be misled: "Bad company corrupts good character"
-Bible
"Be careful the environment you choose for it will shape you; be careful the friends you choose for you will become like them."
-W. Clement Stone
"Surround yourself with only people who are going to lift you higher."
-Oprah Winfrey
"If you're the smartest person in your group, then you need a new group."
-Les Brown
"Surrounding yourself with dwarfs does not make you a giant"
-Yiddish Proverb
Friday, April 15, 2011
UNRESOLVED
Before being able to really open your heart to a new relationship, there are some things you have to let go of....Unresolved relationship issues you hold in your heart must be buried and forgotten.
UNRESOLVED - Theatrical Trailer
by Kelly La Rosa-Sanusi
Watch on Vimeo
Cast List:
Taina Elena Hernandez..........Kate
Yomaris Maldonado...............Sisters
Wanda Nobles Colon.............Mom
Brett Grinstead......................Dad
Matthew Harris......................Ex-boyfriends
.............................................James
Stay tuned for the final cut coming soon!!
UNRESOLVED - Theatrical Trailer
by Kelly La Rosa-Sanusi
UNRESOLVED - Theatrical Trailer from Kelly La Rosa-Sanusi on Vimeo.
Watch on Vimeo
Cast List:
Taina Elena Hernandez..........Kate
Yomaris Maldonado...............Sisters
Wanda Nobles Colon.............Mom
Brett Grinstead......................Dad
Matthew Harris......................Ex-boyfriends
.............................................James
Stay tuned for the final cut coming soon!!
Wednesday, April 13, 2011
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Tuesday, March 22, 2011
I just can't trust you anymore
33 minutes. That’s how long I waited for my bus in the cold and listened to a young lady talking to who seemed to be her ex. Okay…so I was eavesdropping. I’m sorry. It was so bad that I pushed my way to the back of the bus where she was sitting so I could sit next to her! Lmbo! I couldn’t help it; it was like a soap opera. She kept reiterating how she was so much more at ease now that he wasn’t in her life. How although she wasn’t happy/ecstatic all the time, at least, she was not worried about who he was looking at, who he was flirting with, who he was potentially cheating on her with, etc. It seemed like he was trying to convince her that he was faithful and that they should still be together. She was stern while stating that it was over and that she was better off without him. She started off by telling him how he changed over the course of their relationship and how he would have broken up with her had he found “those messages” on her phone from another man. She mentioned how in love with him she was and how he ruined it because she did not trust him at all anymore. I wanted to snatch the phone from her and give him a piece of my mind but that, of course, would probably have been a little rude and uncalled for. I swear, I almost missed my stop because of how engrossed I was in this one sided conversation. I was almost going to follow her home, but that too would have probably been weird, so I jumped off the bus before the bus driver drove off. The funny part was when I got off the bus. I started downloading an update for Pandora on my phone…random…and the FIRST song that played…I mean the very first song that played when the update was downloaded was “Es Mentiroso” by Olga Tañon. OMG! If you don’t know Spanish I could encourage you to learn it…right now…so you can understand the lyrics to this song. I WISH I could have played this song on the bus…to her…or when I, in my imagination snatched the phone from her…I would have played it to him. HA!
It’s interesting how similar so many relationships I hear about now a days are. Actually…it’s quite sad. Good girl meets dude that thinks he is the ish, she falls in love and he ends up breaking her heart (by straying) because he is not ready to settle down. Trust is so important in relationships and once that bond is broken it is sometimes impossible to mend. Who knows, maybe he was always faithful to her, but she doesn’t trust him anymore and it will be very difficult to gain that trust. He will have to work double time to bring her mind to a happy place where she doesn’t have to worry about who that random call was from at 11:42pm, or why he got home an hour later than when he said he would or why this or why not that.
I have realized that when you don’t trust the person you are with, the pain and anguish in your heart and constant roller coaster of tricks your mind plays on you is not healthy. It is much easier to either (a) be alone and stress free or (b) be with someone that brings worry-free / drama-free / happiness into your life. Good luck young lady! Like Hov said…traded in a gold (or in this case rusty imitation) for a Platinum Rolex…and it’s on to the next one. ;)
It’s interesting how similar so many relationships I hear about now a days are. Actually…it’s quite sad. Good girl meets dude that thinks he is the ish, she falls in love and he ends up breaking her heart (by straying) because he is not ready to settle down. Trust is so important in relationships and once that bond is broken it is sometimes impossible to mend. Who knows, maybe he was always faithful to her, but she doesn’t trust him anymore and it will be very difficult to gain that trust. He will have to work double time to bring her mind to a happy place where she doesn’t have to worry about who that random call was from at 11:42pm, or why he got home an hour later than when he said he would or why this or why not that.
I have realized that when you don’t trust the person you are with, the pain and anguish in your heart and constant roller coaster of tricks your mind plays on you is not healthy. It is much easier to either (a) be alone and stress free or (b) be with someone that brings worry-free / drama-free / happiness into your life. Good luck young lady! Like Hov said…traded in a gold (or in this case rusty imitation) for a Platinum Rolex…and it’s on to the next one. ;)
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