"Easy? You men have no idea what we're dealing with down there?! Teeth placement and jaw stress and suction and gag reflex and all the while bobbing up and down, moaning and trying to breath through our noses. Easy? Honey! They don't call it a job for nothin'! Now, having sad all that, with the right man, it can be fabulous. That is, unless the man in question has Spunk that's like a trip to the rotten egg buffet." -Samantha Jones {Sex and The City Season 3 Episode 39 "Easy Come Easy Go"}
This is a very interesting quote from Sex and The City which I heard yesterday and I HAD to add it here with a couple of points I wanted to make:
(1) I believe partners should appreciate one another and all of the efforts they make in trying to please each other. You should both be working on making the relationship work and no one should have it easier than the other person. I don’t mean this only in a sexual sense, but in every aspect of the relationship.
(2) In this Episode of S&TC, Samantha said this to the person she was being intimate with because his “Spunk” as she liked to call it, did not taste like a banana split with a cherry on top. Bodily functions are usually not very yummy and unless you are 100% okay with drinking/eating your own bodily functions, you should not think that your partner is obligated to drink/eat yours…especially not every single time! Then again, EVEN IF you are okay with eating/drinking your bodily function (or someone else’s), not everyone has the same taste buds and/or appetite. Understand that!!!
(3) Samantha found it difficult to actually come out and tell this person that she was not comfortable with the taste of his … But it is important to remember that your partner is NOT a mind reader. Be open and honest with your partner and let them know that you are comfortable or not with certain things in the relationship. Whether that be the taste of his or her ‘Spunk’, that you do not like their whining or that you dislike them leaving their clothes on the floor. Communicate!
(4) Sex should be fun! Don’t forget the foreplay!! Most Women LOOOOOVE foreplay!
(5) In the episode above, every time Samantha was with this particular partner, he wanted her to go down unda. Every single time they were intimate, he would request this he didn’t want to do anything in bed besides THAT. Remember, every sexual experience you have with your partner does not have to be the same; try new/different things every once in a while. Different positions, foreplay, places, clothing, scents, foods, etc. The same routine usually bores people (sadly enough, that is why some people cheat). They don’t tell their partner they are bored, and instead look for something new, somewhere else. {See October 24th Posting ("The grass is always greener on the other side"...)}
5 comments:
Very True Jack! I def agree! COuld not have said it better myself and I love that episode!
I'd be happy if my wife took on that job even once a month!
Sir Anonymous, I think may want to have a talk with your wife and state your desires/concerns. Explain whether or not you'd like her to initiate it, just do it when you ask for it, etc. Ask her (nicely) why she may not partake in this activity with more frequency. Maybe you like this to be done for a long time and she would prefer a shorter time period. Maybe she doesn't like the taste of it and you can work on the foreplay part with sensual bathing, possibly using props such as fruits, flavored jells, etc. It can only help the relationship if you communicate with one another. Best of luck!!
Yo:
Believe me, I've tried. I've hinted at it, I've brought it up casually, I've come out and said it. I guess the wife's just too conservative. I'm not even asking for swallowing, just a simple blowjob to get started would suffice.
Oh well... I hate to say it, but this will drive me to other women for pure physical pleasure.
I believe that if you are tempted to be with other people then you should just cut it off completely with the person you are with. The emotional, mental and physical stress you could cause someone by cheating on them is not worth the one off "bj." I would say consider seeking professional advice before simply looking towards another person for pure physical pleasure. This seemingly simple act may be much more detrimental to your spouse (and children, if you have any), than trying to make it work and/or getting a divorce. I am terribly sorry you are faced with this problem. All the best.
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