As time passes, people change/evolve, goals in life & future outlook progress (or not), feelings change, etc...we're human. I have noticed that with the maturity of a relationship, the more some people have to work at making 'it' work; keeping it fresh and new. The emotional bliss felt at the beginning does not necessary last a life-time. What happens when feelings change so much that you feel like you have fallen out of love?
It's hard enough telling someone you have fallen in love with them, how do you tell someone you have fallen out of love? Has this ever happened to you? Was it more or less difficult because you had already lost feelings for them? What caused you to fall out of love with your significant other? Did you think it was just a phase and did you then decide to stay together to see if it would pass? Did it pass? Or did the love fade even more? Did you just cut it off when you started feeling differently towards them? How did you let them know you were no longer in love with them? Did you have a conversation? Write a letter? Send a text message? Tell a friend/family to let them know? Just stop communicating? Or did they get the hint when you handed them the divorce documents? Did you later feel like you made a mistake and you fell back in love? Or did you realize that you had never fallen out in the first place?
Have you heard the powerful songs that exist about letting go of love? They really hit home when you are faced with the negative aspects of letting go. Below are three songs that discuss this quite emotional transition to the end of a relationship.
"Falling Out" by Keyshia Cole
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=C6yJ8z5xuUg
"Now That The Love is Gone" by David Guetta
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=beGjncfEPt8
"Everyday I Love You Less And Less" by Kaiser Chiefs
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xPGZNWz0XAY
8 comments:
People see things as static; things are naturally in a non changing state.
"You are smart." "We are happy." "They are in love." These are moments in time created by changes that happen before disguised as states. What caused us to be smart, happy and in love?
The actual flame in a fire has no physical state, its only a reaction, a release of energy. For the flame to continue to exist, the reaction must continue; it must have fuel and oxygen. Who stares into a camp fire and thinks that it will burn forever?
Is it the same with Love?
wow! these questions will never have any solid answer. if it was a mistake, no one will admit it. people do change that is a fact of life. relationships evolve, for better or worse. the key to success in a relationship is to find a common ground, a solid foundation of love, communication, hopes, dreams, and aspirations. once the footwork is in place and level, now you construct a solid relationship. even if in the middle of construction if there seems to be a snag or a problem it is up to the two involved to make a sound decision that benefits the whole.
this is where the problem lies. At the point where a problem or a disagreement occurs, people tend to safeguard themselves, not the whole. this is a mistake. i understand that people just need to go there separate ways at times, with reason. but there is no problem two large or stressful that two bright adults can't overcome.
i don't know.....
very good. point taken. you are a very bright person. you eyes see a bit more the average joe....jane!
thats the thing. fire is tangable and understood. it was studied and we know its properties. love has tooooo many variables to ever understand.
Love has always been a choice, above all, feelings might have influence that choice but its the risk of being hurt, the dangers of being vulnerable that allow for it to have substantive and genuine significance. How we choice to understand love dictated every area of our lives...there is nothing as meaningful as to love someone, for we all have flaws, and we all swear our shit don't stink too...lol
Strong true topic I love it!
Its a long and arduous road....but you can do it!
ahh Love..Love love love....soo complicated..lol
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