The Magic Moment

"We have to take risks. We can only truly understand the miracle of life when we let the unexpected manifest itself.

Every day – together with the sun – God gives us a moment in which it is possible to change everything that makes us unhappy. Every day we try to pretend that we don’t realize that moment, that it doesn’t exist, that today is just the same as yesterday and will be the same as tomorrow. But if you pay attention, you can discover the magic instant.

It may be hiding at the moment when we put the key in the door in the morning, in the silence right after dinner, in the thousand and one things that all seem the same to us. This moment exists – a moment when all the strength of the stars passes through us and lets us work miracles.

Happiness is at times a blessing – but usually it’s a conquest. The magic instant helps us to change, drives us forward to seek our dreams. We shall suffer and go through quite a few difficult moments and face many a disappointment – but this is all transitory and inevitable, and eventually we shall feel proud of the marks left behind by the obstacles. In the future we will be able to look back with pride and faith.

Poor are those who are afraid of running risks. Because maybe they are never disappointed, never disillusioned, never suffer like those who have a dream to pursue. But when they look back – for we always look back – they will hear their heart saying: “What did you do with the miracles that God sowed for your days? What did you do with the talent that your Master entrusted to you? You buried it deep in a grave because you were afraid to lose it. So this is your inheritance: the certainty that you have wasted your life.”

Poor are those who hear these words. For then they will believe in miracles, but the magic instants of life will have already passed."

from “By the river Piedra I sat down and wept” by Paulo Coelho

"There's something to be said about a glass half full. About knowing when to say when. I think it's a floating line. A barometer of need and desire. It's entirely up to the individual. And depends on what's being poured. Sometimes all we want is a taste. Other times there's no such thing as enough, the glass is bottomless. And all we want, is more." From the show, Greys Anatomy

Leave Poor Tiger Alone!

OH YES!!! Please leave the poor rich man alone! Please excuse his infidelity, irresponsible behavior and leave his lying ass alone. He has done absolutely nothing wrong, besides being a complete liar, a cheat, a poor excuse for a man and a horrible role model for all young men out there.

Ok…Let's get serious. Why is the media making this such a big deal when we have to deal with war, Global Warming, poverty, racism, starvation, drugs and hate crimes among other injustices that plague this country, this world? Even though, this is not the biggest issue we are facing, this IS a big deal. People look up to Tiger Woods, this 'once child prodigy, nerdy, honest, millionaire which is arguably the world's greatest golfer, that married a model and has the perfect life'. There are people that aspire to be like him. He endorses and has been a spokesperson for many products we purchase/use daily. How are we going to ever trust his word (or that of any spokesperson) when he cannot even be trusted by his wife? Why would we listen to a two-faced, hypocrite when he is living a double life by allegedly being unfaithful to his wife with a string of women? His supposed text messages to “Jaimee Grubbs” are disgusting and plain sad [1]. I feel bad for his wife, Elin, the woman that had faith in him and in their marriage. I am assuming trusted him and let him do his thing on his trips and on the weekends in the hopes that he would come home and be true to his word. Unfortunately, he was busy in other ways, potentially bringing home diseases along with the grocery bags. Who cares if she was sitting at home with all of the money in the world? When your husband, your other half, is not by your side, the money doesn't mean much.

How does he appear in the eyes and mind of a young man growing up in this already tumultuous environment? How can boys idolize a man who has turned out to be more than just a player of golf? How do women trust men that will tell you they love you and that they are heading off to work, when they are possibly gallivanting around with other women? Will we ever live in a society where trust, fidelity, responsibility, probity and love actually mean something?

Please note, this is not only about Tiger Woods; it’s about many men out there. This is also not meant to be a man bashing blog. It isn’t, I promise. So I will now move right along to the other despicable culprit. Many people have been harping on the fact that Tiger did wrong, but let's not forget that it takes two to tango. Jaimee flaunted her stuff in front of him, and unfortunately some, if not most men are as good/honest as their options. She, and all of the other home wreckers out there, ruins it for the rest of us. How are men going to ever trust women when that type of behavior is taking place left and right? How are men supposed to ever stay faithful if more and more women WANT to be a mistress? Um…hello…don't you get it? You will NEVER be number 1 AND you will NEVER get a good man by your side because of your whorish ways!

Eve Ensler one day said, ”women are the primary resource of the planet. They give birth, we come from them, they are mothers, they are visionaries [and] they are the future.” (see awesome video [2] below) How exactly is Jaimee setting an example for little girls around the word by being a…tramp? What role models do young girls have to look up to when a lot of women in the public eye, being continuously broadcasted in these young women's faces, are partaking in this sort of behavior?

Ladies (not sure if I could even call you that), do us all a favor and start setting a better example for women all over the world. Keep your legs closed and your pants on when it comes to other people's husbands and boyfriends. Take some time to look for someone that is available and willing to give you 100%, not just a Sunday night for a fling. Think about it, is that all you really want to be? A jumpoff? A weekend fling? A homewrecker?


In summary, how is the average man going to be respected by women if we cannot even respect the Senators, Presidents, Priests, celebrities and all of the other so called honorable men that run this country? How do we keep a spirit of optimism when the reality we face is one in which it is more and more difficult to trust those closest to you? How do we all start moving towards respecting one another, the relationships we are in and the families we are trying to build?

[1] Text Messages

[2] 13:00min until the end Eve Ensler on Security

Random Thought...

I am a fan of PD's of A, however, when it crosses over into slurping and sucking one another's faces off in public, it has undoubtedly CROSSED the line. GET A ROOM for Pete's sake!

Why not?

I vaguely remember a time when I was carefree about relationships. It did not matter whether I was in a relationship or not. This time was many moons ago. An eternity ago or so it seems. During our younger years, many of us did not worry about who was by our side, about whether or not he or she danced with someone else at the school dance, about who broke up with who and if we did care, it was only for a split moment and then those cares were gone with the wind. Looking back, it seems like we were made of rubber so when we fell, we easily got back up and moved forward.

Sadly, as we get older, it takes us longer to get back up after a fall. The rubber has evolved to porcelain or glass. It is much more difficult getting into a relationship because you are more vulnerable to being let down and broken. Heartbreak could possibly be just around the corner. Why take the jump, the leap of faith, of opening your heart to someone else when most relationships near and far are being destroyed by selfish, meaningless moments of instant gratification?

Why is it that if we know how horrible it feels to give of yourself 100% and then to be crushed if the other person takes advantage of your trust, would we turn around and take advantage of someone else’s trust? Why not work extra to keep your relationship intact? Why not understand the meaning of karma and respect your partner by treating them the same way you expect to be treated? Why not realize the importance of having a meaningful, trusting, long-term relationship? Why not try experiencing a pure relationship, where outside forces do not penetrate the walls of your house of love?

Why not?

Inspired by the following quote…“When you’re young, your whole life is about the pursuit of fun. Then you grow up and learn to be cautious. You could break a bone, or a heart. You look before you leap and sometimes, you don’t leap at all because there’s not always someone there to catch you. And in life, there is no safety net. When did it stop being fun and start being scary?” ~Carry Bradshaw, Sex and the City, Season 6, Episode 82 “The Catch”


Deep in Thought..

Photographer: Pepper Negron
Hair, Make-up & Styling: Carolina Lizana Lamarca

Why so Many Divorces?

What are some of the major causes of divorce in the young couples of today? Many people in their late 20s are getting married and within 2 years are getting divorced. Why is that? Is it due to differences in values? Not meeting expectations? Financial issues? Change of Heart? Family pressure? Combination of many things? I would sincerely like to understand this 'epidemic' for a lack of a better word.

I am Yours and You are Mine

“I bet you’ve had a hard time walking into a room full of people on your own, right? I know what it is not to feel like you’re in the room until he looks at you or touches your hand or even makes a joke at your own expense. Just to let everyone know you’re with him. You’re his.” ~Patricia (The mother played by Kathy Bates) in the movie P.S. I Love You.

I have heard that when you are in love, you could be in a room full of people, yet feel completely and utterly alone, if the person you love is not there. Your very purpose for getting all dressed up and smelling extra special is so that your significant other, your other half, could notice you. For some odd reason, it does not really matter that every single person tells you that you look great, that your outfit is on point, that your perfume is phenomenal, if your “special someone” doesn’t get a chance to mention it. You do appreciate those comments, but the icing on the cake is when your loved winks at you, give you that smile you had been waiting for, brushes his cheek against yours and whispers softly in your ear, “Darling, you look perfect.”

Why is that? Why do we yearn for that approval? Why does it make our day/evening/weekend to be recognized by this single person? Also, why are we not complete until he is by our side? Is it due simply to sheer recognition? Recognition of who you are in his life? Why does it make us feel at ease to know that he is letting the rest of the world know that you are his and he is yours? In Steve Harvey’s book Act Like a Lady, Think Like a Man, Steve wrote about a man’s need to “Profess,” or claim you as his and how this shows that he truly loves you. “If your man loves you, he’s willing to tell anybody and everybody. ‘Look, man, this is my woman’ or ‘this is my girl,’ ‘my baby’s mama,’ or ‘my lady’.” {Page 21} Women may innately feel better about the relationship and themselves when their man is professing / claiming / showing the world that they are a couple.

Do men feel the same way? Do they seek similar approval from their lady? Would it matter more if 10 people (other women) told him he had a nice jacket/tie/pair of kicks, or if his girlfriend/fiancé/wife was the only person that mentioned it? Does a man want to know that his woman will stand by his side in a room full of people and show every single person in there (especially the men) that she is not available, that she is proud of being in a relationship with him?

Are we all the same when it comes to receiving recognition?

By Your Side by Sade

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