Sadly, as we get older, it takes us longer to get back up after a fall. The rubber has evolved to porcelain or glass. It is much more difficult getting into a relationship because you are more vulnerable to being let down and broken. Heartbreak could possibly be just around the corner. Why take the jump, the leap of faith, of opening your heart to someone else when most relationships near and far are being destroyed by selfish, meaningless moments of instant gratification?
Why is it that if we know how horrible it feels to give of yourself 100% and then to be crushed if the other person takes advantage of your trust, would we turn around and take advantage of someone else’s trust? Why not work extra to keep your relationship intact? Why not understand the meaning of karma and respect your partner by treating them the same way you expect to be treated? Why not realize the importance of having a meaningful, trusting, long-term relationship? Why not try experiencing a pure relationship, where outside forces do not penetrate the walls of your house of love?
Why not?
Inspired by the following quote…“When you’re young, your whole life is about the pursuit of fun. Then you grow up and learn to be cautious. You could break a bone, or a heart. You look before you leap and sometimes, you don’t leap at all because there’s not always someone there to catch you. And in life, there is no safety net. When did it stop being fun and start being scary?” ~Carry Bradshaw, Sex and the City, Season 6, Episode 82 “The Catch”
Deep in Thought..
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3 comments:
Welcome my friend! I think women work harder at a relationship than men do.....were very faarrr behind the curve on such things...... I like this post.....:)
see my most recent post....... I think it really applies......
Some people believe that everything happens for a reason. They believe that there's a greater deity playing chess with our lives for some grand picture, a predetermined destiny.
Everything happens for a reason also has another interpretation, it is a cause and effect. When we sabotage a relationship, sometimes it's because of our issues. Other times we are looking for a way out because we know they are not the one. In all cases, it's better that the relationship ended, it's better to know sooner than later. This should be OK, but often isn't.
Being in a failed relationship translates to failure. We live in places where failure is bad. Wrong answers on tests are bad. Failing at relationships is bad. But isn't failing part of learning?
Is a child a failure if he strikes out at his first at bat? How about if he's shut down at his first game? His first little league?
How are relationships any different? Why is it suddenly unacceptable to have a learning curve in relationships? Why is my next relationship always slated to be "the relationship"?
Relationships fail for many reasons. Sometimes, we are not ready for one or do not know how to be in one. A healthy, successful relationship requires many different skills. Sometimes when a relationship fails, we blame the other party and move straight into another relationship without any introspection. Sometimes we date people who are not looking for the same things we are. Other times its just timing.
I think a key to being in a successful relationship is to remove the urgency of now. "Life's a journey, not a destination." Every relationship that we're in that fails, if we learn from them, has just gotten us that much closer to our ultimate goal. And that is a beautiful thing.
So to answer your question, "Why not?"
"Because there's another chapter."
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