Wednesday, December 2, 2009
Why so Many Divorces?
What are some of the major causes of divorce in the young couples of today? Many people in their late 20s are getting married and within 2 years are getting divorced. Why is that? Is it due to differences in values? Not meeting expectations? Financial issues? Change of Heart? Family pressure? Combination of many things? I would sincerely like to understand this 'epidemic' for a lack of a better word.
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Isn't it so sad? I think people go into marriage thinking it's a fantasy. Once the wedding day is over...now what? (type of mentality) Marriage is about growth, respect, endless love. Couples that go into marriage thinking that divorce is always an option...will probably get divorced. It's so sad!
Funny I read this right now, my bro/sis in law are 2 weeks from due day on their 3rd child... 2 are still toddlers; and I came up to help in whatever I can. I realized marriage is hard... Is def. a commitment, there are a mix of elements like pressure, spectations, and maturity. If couples go into it with an inmature mindset, It'll all fall apart. But I was able to see also the great reward; children growing up in a great environment full of love and affection; as well as 2 mature adults that make an effort to love each other and their little family everyday... I'm really inspired by them.
I have your answer....and im not kidding.... Its my next post in a day or so.......
Marriage is an ancient institution. The primary reason for marriage in antiquity was survival. Life was incredibly tough in the days of old and partnering up with someone from a very young age was one way to increase chances of survival. It was only in the 1920's that the concept of a teenager arrived and even later that people got married for love. Before then people got married young and most of the time to people they barely knew. They often died young so a chance to divorce rarelly occurred. Today survival is no longer difficult and a lifetime is much longer.
We are running into an connudrum, applying outdated institutions to modern times. We wonder why it fails so often. We can look to our elders for guidance in this area. However, times have changed dramatically and often their advice is no longer applicable. Looking to our parents for advice is like asking a junkie's advice on how to stay clean, most of the time, they are in the same boat we are in or secretly wish they could divorce but are without options.
Marriage is changing. In Canada, most couples are not married, although they've been together for decades even with children. When asked about this, most reply they simply don't see a need for it. And its true. People are no longer getting married because they need to.
So I believe the better question to ask is not why people are getting divorced but why people are getting married.
Thank you f1trey and Paul.
Paul, you bring up some very valid arguments in your comment. Relationships are tough. A woman with many words is at a loss for words...til next time....
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