I am Yours and You are Mine

“I bet you’ve had a hard time walking into a room full of people on your own, right? I know what it is not to feel like you’re in the room until he looks at you or touches your hand or even makes a joke at your own expense. Just to let everyone know you’re with him. You’re his.” ~Patricia (The mother played by Kathy Bates) in the movie P.S. I Love You.

I have heard that when you are in love, you could be in a room full of people, yet feel completely and utterly alone, if the person you love is not there. Your very purpose for getting all dressed up and smelling extra special is so that your significant other, your other half, could notice you. For some odd reason, it does not really matter that every single person tells you that you look great, that your outfit is on point, that your perfume is phenomenal, if your “special someone” doesn’t get a chance to mention it. You do appreciate those comments, but the icing on the cake is when your loved winks at you, give you that smile you had been waiting for, brushes his cheek against yours and whispers softly in your ear, “Darling, you look perfect.”

Why is that? Why do we yearn for that approval? Why does it make our day/evening/weekend to be recognized by this single person? Also, why are we not complete until he is by our side? Is it due simply to sheer recognition? Recognition of who you are in his life? Why does it make us feel at ease to know that he is letting the rest of the world know that you are his and he is yours? In Steve Harvey’s book Act Like a Lady, Think Like a Man, Steve wrote about a man’s need to “Profess,” or claim you as his and how this shows that he truly loves you. “If your man loves you, he’s willing to tell anybody and everybody. ‘Look, man, this is my woman’ or ‘this is my girl,’ ‘my baby’s mama,’ or ‘my lady’.” {Page 21} Women may innately feel better about the relationship and themselves when their man is professing / claiming / showing the world that they are a couple.

Do men feel the same way? Do they seek similar approval from their lady? Would it matter more if 10 people (other women) told him he had a nice jacket/tie/pair of kicks, or if his girlfriend/fiancé/wife was the only person that mentioned it? Does a man want to know that his woman will stand by his side in a room full of people and show every single person in there (especially the men) that she is not available, that she is proud of being in a relationship with him?

Are we all the same when it comes to receiving recognition?

By Your Side by Sade

By Your Side by Yves Larock ft Jaba

Syleena Johnson - Guess What

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Love is patient and kind; Love envies not, nor is she haughty or proud. Love offends not; she seeks nothing for herself, and is not easily provoked. Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things and endures all things. Love never fails. –Gospel of Paul

How does one obtain blind faith in relationships? Possibly through Time, Practice & Patience. This dance is an incredibly amazing rendition of the constant push and pull in relationships, the dance of love making. Utterly breathtaking.

Making Love in Dance

Mind-boggling thought of the day

Mind-boggling thought of the day...I think that after traumatic, life changing episodes in someone's life; they would undoubtedly become a better person. With the understanding that life is to short to be downright MEAN. Unfortunately, some people take these negative experiences&turn them into a life of negativity, where they try to ruin everyone else's life, to make themselves feel better. I think people need to stop being rude & conniving towards others and let us all live happier lives!

Healthy vs. Not-so-Healhy Relationships

In a healthy relationship, you:

Treat each other with respect
Feel secure and comfortable
Are not violent with each other
Can resolve conflicts satisfactorily
Enjoy the time you spend together
Support one another
Take interest in one another's lives: health, family, work, etc.
Have privacy in the relationship
Can trust each other
Are each sexual by choice
Communicate clearly and openly
Have letters, phone calls, and e-mail that are your own
Make healthy decisions about alcohol or other drugs
Encourage other friendships
Are honest about your past and present sexual activity if the relationship is intimate
Know that most people in your life are happy about the relationship
Have more good times in the relationship than bad


In an unhealthy relationship, one or both of you:

Try to control or manipulate the other
Make the other feel bad about her/himself
Ridicule or call names
Dictate how the other dresses
Do not make time for each other
Criticize the other's friends
Are afraid of the other's temper
Discourage the other from being close with anyone else
Ignore each other when one is speaking
Are overly possessive or get jealous about ordinary behavior
Criticize or support others in criticizing people with your gender, race, ethnicity, sexual orientation, religion, disability, or other personal attribute
Control the other's money or other resources (e.g., car)
Harm or threaten to harm children, family, pets, or objects of personal value
Push, grab, hit, punch, or throw objects
Use physical force or threats to prevent the other from leaving

Source: Columbia.edu site

Married and Bored or Single and Lonely

How much truth is in this?

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