Relationship Problems and how to fix them (4 & 5 of 7)

Struggles Over Home Chores

**Be organized and clear about your respective jobs in the home, Sherman says. "Write all the jobs down and agree on who does what." Be fair: Make sure each partner's tasks are equitable so no resentment builds.

**Be open to other solutions, Sherman adds: If you both hate housework, maybe you can spring for a cleaning service. If one of you likes housework, the other partner can do the laundry and the yard. As long as it feels fair to both people, you can be creative and take preferences into account.


Not Prioritizing Your Relationship

**Do the things you used to do when you were first dating: Make gestures of appreciation, compliment each other, contact each other through the day, and show interest in each other.

**Plan date nights. Schedule time together on the calendar just as you would any other important event in your life.

**Respect one another. Say "thank you," and "I appreciate ... ." It lets your partner know that he/she matters.


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