In olden days (although this does still exist in some cultures), fathers would sit with their daughters’ suitors and ask questions such as:
(1) How will you provide for my daughter?
(2) What is your reputation in this community?
(3) How is your health?
(4) Where will you take her to live?
(5) What are your debts and your assets?
(6) What are the strengths of your character?
Although now-a-days our parents are not prone to ask these sorts of questions, these are still very relevant questions we may want to discuss with a potential life partner. It's no longer only about falling in love and living happily ever after (was it ever?). There are some funny/satirical (although true) freecreditreport.com commercials about getting your credit straight before getting married. Health is huge in today's society with all of the sexually transmitted diseases, let alone all of the health problems that can come about later in life (due to family history) and/or that you can pass on to your children. What religious beliefs (if any) do you want to live by/raise your children by? Where will you and your new family live? Do you mind if your partner spends time with their family members (you’d be surprised how many relationships are shattered due to family ties)? What moral/values do you both live by? It’s important to get a lot of things out on the table before taking the plunge because although our personalities evolve/change/grow with time, the discussions should be taken care of up front. Decide what you can and cannot live with and then move on from there. Communicate!
1 comment:
hahaha..my mother still to this day will ask some sort of variation of these questions..
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