Holiday Blues...

Awww how adorable!?! You notice a couple stop right in front of you to take cutesy kissy pictures. Oh and there is another one hugging to keep warm as they wait to cross the street! But there is more, you can’t miss that couple over there holding hands and skipping!!! Everyone around you is smiling, laughing, cheerful. You, however, walk around the city feeling empty, gloomy and alone. When you get home, an overwhelming chill fills your entire being as cold air seeps through your window pain while soft snow flakes cover the ground just outside.

Winter has arrived and the Holidays are upon us. Whether you are short, tall, skinny, or pleasantly plump, married, single, divorced, widowed or separated, you’ve got to experience the Holidays. Now, the experiences will be different for everyone in these ‘categories.’ For some: ‘tis the season to be Jolly; for others: the Holiday season can be a time of great depression, so we must ensure that our minds are ready for what could potentially be a bumpy ride.

How do the holidays affect people in healthy relationships or not-so-healthy relationships? How about the people that are not in relationships, or just finished ending a short/long-term love affair? Is it worth-while to fake the happiness if you are feeling a little blue after just having gone through a separation or divorce? For those of you in a relationship, has the stress of the Holidays and the state of the economy (the recession/depression) brought you down to an all time low?

The “Law of Attraction” (Watch/read "The Secret") states that ‘what you think about, you bring about,’ so maybe ‘acting’ as if you are happy may in fact bring about this happiness you are calling into your life. Even though watching a movie alone, while sipping on hot chocolate in a cold, lonely room might not sound appealing, maybe thinking about it in a positive light will help matters. Think about it this way, it could be worse! There are plenty of married/dating couples that are in negative or abusive relationships and the stress of the Holidays does not help their situations. Your current state of singless-ness may not be that bad after all!

Some people think about how holidays were in the past when so and so was around, or when they used to participate in this or that activity. It may be beneficial to stop dwelling on the past and think about all of the positive aspects of the current Holiday season. Do not let the pressures of spending time with allll of your family members and buying gifts for everyone at home and work, get you down. Set realistic goals for your self in terms of who you could spend time with and budget wisely to reduce financial stress. To take the focus off of your situation (whatever it may be), you could try to volunteer for an organization with needy children and/or adults. This may help you appreciate all of the positive aspects of your life. Also, try not to abuse of alcohol or drugs to mask your sadness. It may only hurt in the long run.

Happy Holidays to you all and may 2009 bring you continuous joy in all of your relationships.

Resource: http://www.umm.edu/features/holiday_blues.htm